Jade - posted on 04/28/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
hi, my name is Jade and i have 2 boys who are 5 & 7 years old. both boys are ADHD,OCD,PFAS,ect. there is a long list. my 2 boys are complete opposites. if one is having a good day the other is not. my 7 year old tantrum's are not that bad and easy to calm down. on the other had my 5 year old tantrums consits of yelling,screaming,back talking,spitting,smaking,kicking,biting ect.. He has a very scary anger problem. i have 4 reach devlopment works working with me to help try to calm him down before it gets outta hand.
some examples are:
my 5 year old would be sitting on the floor playing with cars and my 7 year old will ask if he can play. my 5 year old will get up to talk and say yes you can so my 7 year old will go to toy box and get a car to sit and play as soon as he goes to sit down my 5 year old will walk over and punch my 7 year old in the face and yell No you cant play now..
another.... at 7 pm everynight my 5 year old has to go to bed. so we do the same thing everynight bath at 6:30 and in pj by 6:50 then he will get a melation and a half glass of warm water, he will do good but then at 7 pm he will start screaming. a few night s ago i go down to his level to speak to him calmly and he kicked me in the face and bit me.
there are alot more examples i can give....
in my home there are 3 adults and 2 children.... my husband, my mother and myself and then my kids.... my husband works alot so he is not around much and my bother has copd and ptsd so she is sleeping alot and walk when they are a sleep. so i am pretty much doing this alone..also some added info is that my 7 year old is in school 5 days a week.. my 5 year old was to start kindergarden in sept this year but the school district had a meeting with me last week to inform me that he will not be excepted due to his defence level. he was going to daycare 3 days a week but now he is home 7 days a week with me.. he is to anger and violent for them to handle. i would really love some advice on what i can do... i feel like i am a horrible mom because my 5 year old is outta control... but i am try my best with 2 special needs children 4 support worker meeting 4 times a week and 3-4 hours asleep a night... i can admit i am very over whelmed and almost feel like i am at a breaking point...