HELP!!!! My 6 year old son's teacher suggested we put him back into Kindergarten!

Cristina - posted on 10/01/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




Hello, I am a single mom of a 6 year old single child. His father and I separated when he was three and he never seen his daddy again. His father comitted suicide this June and my son knows daddy wont come back. I did not tell him how he died. That is a little background.

My son is in the first grade and has been there for over a month. His teacher says he is academically smart but socially he is throwing tantrums, screaming and throwing himself on the floor when he does not get his way or the teacher does not call his name to help her. He spends most recesses in the office because he will not do his work. We have to go it when he gets home. She wants to put him back into kindergarten but I do not think that is a good idea. I have called and made and appointment with a child counselor. Im so scared for my son. I only want the best for him. He is really a sweet little boy who loves people and attention. I feel like I really have messed up as a parent, otherwise he would not be acting this way. Does anyone have any advice?


Bobbie - posted on 10/02/2012




The teacher realizes his emotional youth which is just as important in developmental learning as all other areas. Many children are 6 when in Kindergarten. I say let him move back because k classes are more geared toward learning social skills. Tantrums are an expression of frustration and the inability to handle what is being asked of him. He needs extra care and attention to develop skills to accept and adjust


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Dove - posted on 10/02/2012




Talk to the counselor as soon as you can and tell them the teacher's recommendation. Putting him back in K may or may not be the best thing for him right now.

Why do you not think it is a good idea? Have you talked to the teacher about your concerns with that?

It is possible that with a little time and counseling he will be able to behave appropriately in class and be able to stay in first, but if he's really NOT ready emotionally... pushing him forward could backfire entirely.

Sorry. Good luck with it all!!

Gwen - posted on 10/02/2012




Definitely keep the appointment with the counselor; a professional who can help him work through the loss of his father and learn healthy outlets for his frustration.

Shabnambutt - posted on 10/02/2012




i think u should go to some relatives who have child of his age.let him to do what he wants to do.give him space. he is too young to understand the reality of his life that his father is no more.u should treat him with care n love.

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