Help! My 8 year old daughter doesn't eat what I make for dinner.

Clarissa - posted on 03/08/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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It is definately not a power struggle. We've tried having her eat something simple (apple only) or make dinner. Nothing seems to work. Could this be a mental issue?

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Sarika - posted on 05/05/2014

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Hi All my eat year old daughter is driving me crazy as she is not eating any meal properly. Only when we go out she will eat, I did everything possible but she refuse to eat any curry ir vegetable. Also she is extremely slow not doing anything on time. Very lazy, am worried about her I don't want to hit her but I end up hitting her kindly help

Joanne - posted on 03/09/2009

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My daughter was doing the exact same thing. The doctors told me it was a control issue being 8 yrs old, looking for something she can control. I did what you tried I let her help make the dinner. I let her think if she ate that was good if she didn't that was also ok, I was told don't make a big deal out of it. The doctor said as long as she ate breakfast and lunch and a healthy snack after school, then if she didn't eat dinner not to worry about it, but don't let her eat snacks with the other kids after dinner and after awhile, she started eating dinner again. 

Dixie - posted on 03/08/2009

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I was a pickey eater, so I would not suggest holding out food. I went three days without eating. My Mom cried begging my Dad to let me eat anything. Offer her something you know she would eat normally. That is her only alternative. This way you know if she is being stubborn or not. Don't let her eat anything else for the night other than dinner or the alternative. Mine was bread and peanut butter.

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Clarissa - posted on 03/09/2009

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Thanks for all the advice!  I think the hardest part for me is her not even trying it and "not making a big deal about it".  It's hard for me not to get emotional about it. :o)

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You all make me very happy with your advice. I am 42 & my kids are all adults now. It does my heart good to see that I had the same problem 15 years plus ago & used all of these methods. Kids are kids no matter what the generation. I will admit that I did become a short order cook a time or 2.

Clarissa - posted on 03/08/2009

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My daughter eats breakfast and lunch just fine.  She is pretty picky and won't eat hot lunch at school unless she likes it, at least once a week she can find something.  Other than that it's PB&J or a turkey and cheese sandwhich. I try and limit when I give them snacks, school ends at 3:30 so I stop "snack time" at around 4.  Dinner may not be until 6ish..



 

Joanne - posted on 03/08/2009

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Does your daughter eat breakfast and lunch, without a problem. I am asking because when my daughter was 8 we had an eating issue and I don't want to give you the wrong advice.

Jacquie-Lin - posted on 03/08/2009

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For our house, we make dinner and everyone has until mom and dad are done eating to finish thier meal.  If they don't eat then it is water to drink the rest of the night and the kitchen is closed.  It has only taken one or two times of this and they typcally eat thier dinner.  It is hard to follow through with but in the end it is worth it.-jlh 

Mary - posted on 03/08/2009

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IFYOU ARE GIVING JUICE AND OTHER THING BEFORE DINNER, THE CHILD WILL NO EAT FOOD.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2009

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I never force my daughter to eat.  I feel she will eat when she is hungry.  As far as her not eating what I make, then she will not eat.  I won't prepare meals just for her.  Eventually, they will learn to eat what you make.  I have asked our pediatrician, he backs me up on this one.

Danica - posted on 03/08/2009

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What is she eating during the day? Maybe she's not hungry at dinner time.

My daughter was doing the same thing so we limited afternoon snacks and pushed dinner back by 1/2 an hour and now she eats every meal. We also did a sticker reward, but my daughter is 3 so it might not work for your 8 year old.

Crystal - posted on 03/08/2009

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I have heard lots of differant reasons that children fight over eatting, and the one I personally believe is that they get to the stage where they know they have a choice in life and like to use the word 'no', she could just be saying no she wont eat dinner because she can, I personally would not offer her any food other then dinner, if she chooses not to eat it put it in the fridge and when she says she is hungry just let her know that dinner is in the fridge and u will heat it up for her to eat. My son has done the same but now eats dinner every night but also I make sure that he doesn't have food that he really doesn't like i.e Onions!! Good Luck hth

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