Angelina - posted on 05/17/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )
Hello. I am not sure how to put this without sounding like Mother Dearest! I am so frustrated and stressed out at this point, so here goes my newly founded family lifestyle. I was a single mother for about 2 years, with my 2 boys who are now 9 & 11. I met a wonderful man with 2 children of his own, ages 3 & 8. At first our blended family was the best thing ever, it seemed to go so smoothly. Now......it seems to be a train wreck at times! My 2 boys have some adjusting issues they have dealt with, not to say they are angels. At first my 2 boys give attitude and have talked back to their stepfather, which I have addressed their behavior each time. Now, I feel that my 2 boys are doing much better with their stepfather, they talk to him more and give less attitude, not to say their attitude is completely diminished because it's not. On the other hand my 3 year old step and 8 year old step daughter come with us every weekend and I am having a hard time with enjoying their presence! I battle myself from knowing I am the adult and they are innocent children that deserve the best of both worlds, to me not even wanting to deal with them. My 3 year old step son always cries and throws fits when he doesn't get his way, he's constantly being bullied by his sister (my SD), She will lie all the time when she makes him cry and turns it back on him. She never takes responsibility for her actions and is shockingly quick to cover her actions with a lie or blame it on her little 3 year old brother. It is coming to the point where she will be in her room, across the hall from our bedroom, and text her dad that she's bored or whatever it may be instead of coming to our room. Her father and I were playing rock paper scissors the other night, yeah we are total geeks when it comes to that. We play rock paper scissors to see who loses and has to do something the other doesn't want to do. Well I lost, and left the room, not even 2 mins later my SD calls her dad from our room to hers and asks to play rock paper scissors, which he did and is great, and then she asks to sleep on our floor (which we never have allowed that with any of our children). She constantly talks like a little baby, and it's frustrating. I get that she is seeking attention, but I need help as I feel she is seeking it in a negative manner. I want to correct her behavior without her dad being on the defense! I don't want her thinking it's ok to act that way. I want to assist her in becoming an independent strong little lady. Any suggestions/Advise? Whew...I never knew it would be so complicated with a blended family! I love my significant other and we have an amazing life together, I just need to get these children in line and not allow them to play us against each other like their puppets...