HELP!My daughter is 11 and she completly shut down.

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She doesn't share anything with me anymore. The other night we got in a argument about the test she failed and next thing i know she packed a bag like she was planning on running away. I dont know how to reach her. I tried to talk to her, but i was the only one talking. Help i dont know what to do. This has been like this for the last month.

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Dove - posted on 09/01/2012

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I don't know how you approach it NOW... All my kids from a young age know that there will be no dating or boyfriends/girlfriends until 16. I start talking from a young age and make talking about sex and such just as normal as talking about dinner.

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I'm a stay at home mom and i drop her off at school sometimes drop by to have lunch, and i pick her up from school. She is not allowed to spend the night at friends house. I think ...no i know this started with me. She is growing up and i still treat her as a little girr by not listening and not judging. When she tells me something i dont listen. I tried what you said and last night she asked about wearing mascara, i told her that right now she is too young to wear any makeup and i will consider it next year. How do i aproach her about the boyfriend? I found out from her phone that i took away.

Dove - posted on 09/01/2012

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Considering that some 11 and 12 year olds are getting pregnant... I'd say enough to get in trouble, but not enough to stay out of it unless they have a good, solid sex education, guidelines, and a LOT of better distractions (school, church, and sports to name a few).

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To top it all off I just found out she has a school boyfriend. She is only 11 yrs old what do they know about boys?

Dove - posted on 08/31/2012

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Maybe start having a regular mother/daughter date if you don't already? Don't plan to talk to her about anything at first... just hang out and hopefully the talking will come in time.



Pre-teens are very awkward creatures. I'd give more advice, but I'm in the middle of pre-teen world myself. We DO talk quite a bit, thankfully, but it is still a very awkward and trying time.

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