Help my daughter needs to gain her confidence back

Philo - posted on 01/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello everyone . I'm mixed and I had a daughter for a black man and now I am married to a white Lebanese man. I have 5 kids in total but four of them is for my Lebanese husband. My daughter is 17 years old and my Lebanese husband has been taking care of my daughter since she was 1 year. I just told her recently that her current father is not her biological father . And she was not too surprised cause she was already suspecting that something was wrong. And she did burst into tears when I told her, I had to fly to the uk with her to show her , her grandmother from her biological father. Now she is even more confused than ever cause, she now believes that she does not belong to anywhere. Sometimes she looks at celebrity kids that have mixed moms and black dads. And still wonder that if her mom is mixed and her real dad is black y doesn't she still look like them. She has lost her confidence totally in her self . My problem is that I don't know why I relaxed her beatiful curly hair she used to have , her hair curls a bit now but it is still total damaged. And she just cut her hair last week really short. I wish I could post a picture of she when she was a kid , before she cut her hair and now. How can I help her gain her confidence and help her get her curly hair back. Plsss I need your help to help my daughter.

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well if the hair was damaged then cutting it was a good start. It needs to grow out and become new healthy hair for the curl to come back properly. It is probably very hard on her finding the truth and it will take a while for her to calm down. She will have whole new "identity" to come to terms with and she will have to get over the fact she was "lied" to for 17 years. I don't know if you actually did but you have to remember she is a teenager and that's how it could be taken.
She also has to understand that mixed could be many different things. These celebrities might be part something you are not and that will change how they look. Hair will help but she should be made to feel confident with herself. Not her looks. How short is the hair? If she needs a perk up maybe take her to a salon for a style. Not something as intense as relaxed but something that will help her cheer up for a day.

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I have had hair that is half an inch long, willingly, and have had to deal with hair breaking off as well. Go out and have her pick out a whole pile of cute hair clips. They will girly it up and help with growing it out. I personally love have bow clips in short hair.

Philo - posted on 01/14/2014

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Well her hair length was neck length and it kept breaking constantly . We just cut it yesterday really short, like really short.

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