Help! My daughter only runs to her potty AFTER she goes.

Alexis - posted on 08/05/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

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How do I fix this? She goes #1 or #2 then runs and sits on the potty. I don't know why. Sometimes we will put her on the potty and she will go but how do I get her to understand? She's 14 months has been walking and running for almost 6 months and is quick to figure things out so I can't figure out how to explain this to her. Suggestions? Is this a step in the wrong direction?

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Guest - posted on 08/07/2014

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You are doing fine! and so is she!
Running to the toilette after she pees or poos is the sign that she knows that pee and poo go into the toilette--that is the first step--she just hasn't identified the feeling that comes BEFORE it happens. Over the next few months, she will start to pay attention to the signals her body gives her and begin to recognize the way her body feels before she needs to get to the potty. There really isn't anything you can do to hurry that along, she will notice it and recognize it when she is ready. For some kids that can come as early as 15 or 16 months, for others it can come as late a 4 years. Any time in between is normal and okay, just keep the little kiddy potty in the bathroom and let it happen on its own.

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Teresa - posted on 08/08/2014

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It's a stage. and she is pretty young too. She'll eventually recognize "before" she actually does the deed. My 2.5 year old will tell us when he has done it and then want to sit on the potty. They are now recognizing that they have done something. The next step is recognition beforehand and that is something dependent upon them. I offer the potty once an hour when my son is with me. He's in daycare through the week.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/08/2014

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I will say that my eldest was easier...or perhaps just less hard headed about the whole thing. Then again, he was about to be the 'best big brother EVER'...so he wanted to be a total big boy before his brother arrived.

Brother, on the other hand...stubborn and hard headed. Finally my nanny asked him why he didn't like to use the potty (she was just starting to train her daughter, so we thought it would be great if they both trained together). He told her 'because that's what diapers are for, and I'm busy'. Verbatim answer from an almost 3 YO...I about died! That one got the 'quick train' treatment, complete cold turkey from diapers. Once he realized we weren't going to bend, he trained in about 3-4 days.

Alexis, it's totally normal to be concerned that you're 'not doing it right' with your firstborn. Just remember, each child is different, and each will reach milestones at different ages. You, my dear momma, are doing JUST GREAT with your LO so far! Keep up the good work!

LTM - posted on 08/08/2014

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Hi Alexis. I've always found potty training to be pretty easy. (Not saying all kids and parents should find it easy, though, just that it's not been a problem for me or my kids.)
Success generally comes from 'training' yourself. You need to be able to spot the best time to pop your daughter on the potty so she gets to be successful. Once she gets the hang of it, she'll be right. :)
In my experience, kids get a particular 'look' when they are gearing up to do a #2. For some it is a look of concentration, for others it is almost a look of surprise. If you speak and distract her, you'll often get enough time to get her over the potty before she drops it.
#1 is also something you can train yourself to anticipate. After a sleep if she's still dry, put her straight on the potty, and talk to her about doing a wee. (Turn the tap on gently over the sink if you need the sound of running water to trigger the response.) A short while after eating or drinking (eg lunch) is another good time to head for the potty. Talk with her while she's there, asking if she thinks she can do a wee and encouraging her to try.
Don't make her stay until she does one. If she can't go (or says she can't), accept her word and don't make a drama out of it. Just say 'Well, we'll come back and try again in a little while'.
Going to the potty doesn't have to be a big deal. It can be fun. Sometimes I used to race my kids to the potty .. and I'd race them to do a wee. I'd set the potty up in the bathroom near the toilet so we could go together. Kids love to be winners, even when they are very young. lol.

Alexis - posted on 08/07/2014

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I appreciate the help I really do. I'm just sensitive because she's my first and I'm trying to do right by her you know?? :/

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/07/2014

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You asked for advice, and were given advice.

No one put you down in any way at all. We've all been through this, some of us multiple times.

Good luck

Dove - posted on 08/06/2014

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Let me tell you something... I have a child that peed on the toilet for the first time at 16 months. While naked she was 100% trained right from the beginning, so she spent a lot of toddlerhood at home naked... with pants on though... she had accidents til she was 9 years old.

I also have a son who pooped on the toilet for the first time at 15 months. I kept him in diapers and left all of the potty training process 100% up to him. He was 100% day and night trained about 3 months short of his third birthday and in 3.5 years has had VERY few random and rare accidents... day or night.

It's not putting you down... it's 'seasoned' moms trying to share advice based on our experiences going through the potty training process...

Alexis - posted on 08/06/2014

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I'm not forcing her.. She took an interest so I'm trying to do it at a time she's interested and not at a time where it's "old news" I only got her a potty and stuff because she tried sitting on the toilet. I'm just showing her what it's for and how to use it... I feel like you guys are putting me down 😔

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/06/2014

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No, but you're expecting her to be ready way too early.

This is an excellent sign that she's cognitive of the process, and is starting to refine it.

Sarah - posted on 08/06/2014

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She is 14 months old!!! Let her be little. She will potty train when she is ready.....usually around 2 to 3 yrs old. That is when her body physically will be ready. Let her be little.....she just turned 1 yrs old.

Dove - posted on 08/06/2014

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No. Letting my son potty train himself was the best parenting thing I've ever 'done'. There is no way I'd be dealing w/ all those messes and trying to potty train a child at 14 months. I think that's ridiculous.

Alexis - posted on 08/05/2014

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Well she runs around the house without a diaper so her sign of going pee is looking down and waiting for it to come out and holds her butt when she has to poo... So she sees her mess but if I catch her at the right time she will go in the potty. Is there anything you could suggest to help the process along?

Dove - posted on 08/05/2014

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Because she is 14 months.... She is perfectly normal and this is actually a step in the RIGHT direction. She is making the connection between what she is putting in her diapers and the fact that it belongs in the toilet. Just talk to her and encourage her and take her lead.

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