HELP my grand daughter is adhd any suggestions

Debbie - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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she is 3 yr old and we are beside ourselves.she is wide open 24/7 and we have tryed everything but meds and that is out of the question

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Jennifer - posted on 09/06/2013

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Debbie, all the posts before me are good and truly the meds issue is a personal choice to a point. I think 3yrs old, I would agree, no meds but you can help her with diet. My son was 4yrs old when went on meds, but he was also sever ADHD and it wasn't until 6th grade we found that he had an underlying anxiety disorder. Something to remember as she gets older that its not uncommon for kids with ADD/ADHD to have other underlying issues that may or may not require some kind of medication.

The only post I disagree with is Ashley's because caffiene does for ADHD kids that the meds do, it calms their brains. My son is 16 and I took him off his meds for weekends and summer time, 2 yrs ago or after he went through puberty because his body was changing and so was his behavior and he didn't need the meds. However, if you get some good books on ADHD and medication you will read that adults with ADHD will drink coffee or mountain dew because it helps them with control issues. My son has taken up drinking coffee as his way of dealing with his ADHD when he is not on meds.

Sugar is the biggest thing you need to remove from her diet, just not the natural sugars like in fresh fruit. No cookies, cakes, ice cream pop tarts or sugary cereals. Also starches digest into straight sugar which then hypes them up. From what I have red this dye issue that people have commented on is not really fact, but sometimes people react differently. We had 2 awesome doctors working with us when my on was little, the first was Dr. Lawrence Diller (child behaviorist specialiizing in these disorders) and Dr. Peter LeVine in Walnut Creek, CA, who worked with the drug therapies for ADHD medicines. They are the ones that told me to remove sugar from him diet and they are right as when he digests the foods it was like getting a shot of speed! So if you or her mom just don't buy these items and dont store them in the house she will get used to no eating them she will feel better. If its a special occasion, do it in very small portions (I mean small). Good Luck

Nicole - posted on 08/23/2009

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I have a child also with ADHD he is 8yrs old. Yes tough times I will agree. Structure is the key !!! Me and my husband were totally against the meds too, until about 1 yr ago. WOW what a difference. We can also see in Ty the sense of feeling alittle better about himself. How a child must feel knowing he is out of control and honestly cant conrtol it. The question was said to us, If your child needed glasses to see, you would do it, After thinking hard, and doing some research, We thought well, my child needed just alittle help with meds so he can control himself in an appropriate manner. I'll take it !!! hope this helps if you need anything dont hesitate to comtact me Good luck!!

Melissa - posted on 08/23/2009

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There is a book called Taming the Tiger. (I think that is the name) I will check with the woman that recdommened it to me so long ago! LOL

Lisa - posted on 08/23/2009

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Oh Debbie this is such a touchy subject for me. My son was also three when he was said to be ADHD. I did nothing at the time just blew it off as he was a little boy. When he was at the end of his Kindergarten year he was finally placed on medication due to school trouble. At that time I knew none of the stuff I know now. Children have died from this medicine. My son stopped growing. He went from being in the 85th percentile in height to the 45th. I took itr upon myself and took him off meds this year after 3 years. We sit down and talk about about how important self control is. Since this June he has gained 18lbs and grown 1,5 inches. Amazing! He is a much happier kids. I would recomend reading some books to help with Ideas. Some that helpped me where "Healing the New Childhood Epidemics" by Kenneth Bock, M.D., and Cameron Stauth. Also believe it or not the Jenny McCarthy books were very informative. Good luck to you and your 3 year old. Hang in there it does get better when you find what works for you.

Laura - posted on 08/23/2009

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Have you tried changing her diet and eliminating certain foods. If you completely remove red dye from her diet it should help. You may be doing this but you would be surprised wha tyou find the dye in. Its in Ketchup and lots of foods. Also a strict routine can help with rewards for good behavior.



Hope this helps.

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Hello my son is also ADHD and I fell the same thing about medication until the end of the 5th grade I was called into a meeting with the principle, all his teachers, the psychologist etc due to he had no focus. He flunked the 5th grade and had never passed his RAI testing since school started but they decided not to tell me till then. They will not hold your child back due to flunking a grade until 9th grade so we were stuck and I was mad..
I took him and had a series of evaluations done for him which confirmed he as ADHD and I was hell bent and against medication. I did not want my son dopped up and sedated then my Pastor told me about different medications out there and begged me to try it for just 30 days and see if it makes a difference. So we started on Concerta only during the week and off on the weekends and within a week his teacher were emailing me about how much his focus had improved and Aaron was telling me how much easier it was to do a simple thing like sit down and read a book.
My advice is we as parents dont want to see our children on drugs but for long term and this is how I was told
When we sit and read a book we read word for word when a child with ADD/ADHD sits to read a book all the words pop out to them at one time-- think of how frustrating that would be
I understand your concern and can appriciate it but think of the frustration and aggrivation it can cause your child not to mention it interferes with their learning abilities because they little brains are like gears and never stop turning. Think of all that he/she will miss if you dont slow the brain down just a little bit..
Aaron once told me mom thank you my thinking is much clearer now
We went from straight F's to A's and B's and during the summer I took him completely off the medication

Just think about it meds to help

Laura - posted on 08/23/2009

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I would certainly look into a non contact activity like dance or something that she would enjoy. You could also look into OT to see if there are any sensory integration techniques that could assist in calming her. I can only imagine how difficult this must be-I have a 3 year old and she is a handful without ADHD. Hang in there, we'll keep you in our prayers!

Vanessa - posted on 08/23/2009

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My daughter is also adhd. She is now 8 years old and I too am against meds. My daughter's therapist and psychologist have given me wonderful ideas and I have seen a tremendous change in my daughter. Your granddaughter may be a little young for some of the activities but others are where we started. The best thing we have found is any activity that calls for absolute attention such as, dance, learning an instrument, gymnastics, cheer-leading, some type of arts and crafts class. My daughter was diagnosed when she was 3. We have never, nor will we ever put her on meds. We watch what she eats and put her in activities that encourage focus, ALWAYS try and keep a schedule, make charts that show daily activities and have the child mark off things she has done (little things even, like bath time, brushing hair and teeth, lunch and so on.) My daughter went from struggling horribly in school to being an AB student. She still has issues with learning and it is a everyday struggle for her, but with encouragement and the help of her teachers and support staff, she is excelling. I always make sure to let everyone who will be teaching her rather it be her dance teacher or a tutor of her ADHD. that way they can better help her. These simple things have help my daughter so much and she is doing so well. She use to have violent outbursts because she would be so hyper and frustrated at trying to learn something, she doesn't have them anymore, she has a better grip on how to better concentrate. Also she sees her therapist once a week, she has been seeing her since she was 3 years old, at first the therapist mostly talked to me about my daughter and the things she did, then she began talking with my daughter about her feelings and how to deal with them in a better way. They made lists and drew pictures. My daughter has a 10 things to do if I get upset because I can't concentrate or am to "busy" to pay attention list. It helped her a great deal. The list is as follows and she has had this list for 4 years now, she follows it if she feels she is having trouble.
1. take a deep breathe
2. find my favorite toy
3. tell my mom or dad what is bothering me
4. count to 10 and try again
5. go to my happy place if I still can't do it yet (my daughters happy place is a tent in our basement, it has a pillow and sleeping bag in it along with a few books, a few toys, and some snacks. She goes there to be alone and clear her head, no one bathers her when she is in there.)
6. color a picture to tell how I feel
7. go outside and run around
8. look at pictures of my accomplishments ( I keep a scrap book)
9. call my grandma and talk to her about what is going on
10. Try again with a clear head.

My daughter made this list with the help of her therapist. She has a copy, I have a copy, the therapist has a copy, and there is copies at places she frequents. She has a happy place everywhere she goes, rather it be my mom's house or day care or even dance. You could make your own list for your granddaughter that pertains to her and her needs. I work very hard with my daughter and I make sure everyone who will care for her is on the same page. I monitor what she watches, what she eats (I try to only give her fresh food, with no added dyes or preservatives, I use sugar substitutes.), I keep her active in many different activities, I take her to the park or to the gym so she can work off extra energy.

This is a start, I hope some of it helps. If you have any questions feel free to send me a message. Good luck.

Sherri - posted on 08/23/2009

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Try looking into your local Childrens Hospital to see if they have any outpatient programs for children with ADHD. My son was 3yrs when he was first diagnosed and is now 12yrs. Our local Children's Hospital outpatient program was my saving grace and still is. They provided me with tips, tricks and guidence to get me through some tough days.

Ashley - posted on 08/23/2009

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my son is almost 6 and is ADHD, my husband is also ADHD. First and foremost NO CAFFINE at all, that means chocolate, tea, and soda. Ihave done this with both of my children so long that they now ask "Deos that have caffine?" before they drink anything. I am concerned about my son with school because his attention span is non-exsistant. My husband refuses to medicate him but I am thinking we may have to. All I can say is be patient with her and put her in activities that will help her exspend the energy. Something like dance, swim lessions, or tumbleing. You will be amazed

Jackie - posted on 08/23/2009

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As the wife of an adult ADD sufferer who is not medicated and the mother of two children who are genetically at a disadvantage my best advice is to watch everything that goes in their mouths. For example red dye makes my youngest oddly hyper and gives him night terrors. I try my best to feed the whole family as natural as possible food. Thats not saying they don't get "junk" but I do limit what and how much. I have found most people don't notice what their family is drinking. Because of an apple allergy in our little family I became a big reader of Juice labels. There is very few juices that are 100% natural. Most have perservatives, colourings, flavourings, and juices that you wouldn't expect... for example there is apple juice in grape juice, orange juice and the list goes on. I would also hit a natural food store/expert and find out what vitamins and supplements they recommend.

Jo - posted on 08/23/2009

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hi debbie



my son was 3 when we were told the news he had adhd, because he was so young , we tried everything, the food, colour and preservatives, exercise and different so called programmes that were designed for these challenging kids, by the time he was 4 i had read all the literature and had spoken to many people, we put him on medication, he has changed for the better, he attended theropy both speech and ot and is now in main stream school, i know that meds are not for everyone, but they do work, they balance the kids back out, they sleep better, they eat better and they listen, not always but we are back in a positive programme, all i can say is to read everything you can, and do what in the end you think is the right thing, don't listen to the negativity, just focus on you and your grandaughter, you will get through it, its just a new chapter in her book



hope this helps,



jo

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