22with2 - posted on 06/20/2013 ( 38 moms have responded )
I am a 22 year old mother of 2 young girls. I also am married to an older man who has 4 other children
with ages that vary from 4-14!!!!!! I am extremely depressed because ever since November 2012 I have not been able to get comfortable in my own home or any quiet time and its about to get even worse.
-11/2012 child #1 moves in and wants to stay attend high school but has just moved back with mom
-06/2013 child #2 wants to visit for the summer but now wants to stay here and attend middle school
-06/2013 child #3 wants to move in and attend high school
-and depending on the situation child #1 wants to move back in
OKAY So heres the deal im 22 with 2 kids of my own, but i really dont want to be bothered wit hmy husbands kids..he's always working so that must mean they are around me all day every day until they leave my house.
So now i will be having to cook, listen, or care for all of these skids(stepkids) who are not mine
they complain too much, talk too much, and to be honest i wouldnt mind if they visit for the summer, but my husband says that would make him very happy if ALL of his kids can live together with us...I dont know what to do...ive tried praying about it and also talking to him about it but-he has told me if i dont want his kids there then he will find someplace else to live-which is a divorce!-i dont know who to talk to or what to do..its seems like a very huge burden on me..i am sad very often because i am basically FORCED to deal with this if i want to stay married. i dont go out, im just stuck at home with his kids....i have to sneak and go places so his kids wont ask to go..i need sum peace sumtimes. and if i dont take or ask his kids to go they get upset and asks me why i didnt want them to go, but i never see him take his kids anywhere with him
I NEED HELP with this situation, because if i dont fix this now i only have 2 OPTIONS
2. FOR THE NEXT 8 YEARS I WILL BE GOING INsane