Jody - posted on 02/28/2014 ( 11 moms have responded )
Help! I am a SAHM for 7 years. I have a high school son that is in a very expensive private college prep school. I have a second son that took the test at the private high school and found out he is eligible to attend the expensive high
School in the fall. I then have a 2nd grader. Our family has had things very well financially until about the last year. My husband is an attorney and in his own practice. He does social security/disability. Well, the government changed how they pay attorney fees and his fees were cut in half due to this change. Then what was a pretty timely payout by social security his fees have been upheld by social security and they drag out paying for months. We have struggled and been completely humbled
by this experience. Now with bill collectors calling everyday and our cabinets completely empty our house has turned upside down. When my husband went into his own practice he had no idea this would happen. I feel like I am in denial and its going to get better. He works very hard, working 14-15 hour days. He is trying very hard but it has been completely
nuts. I try to give him advice but he always says I don't know what I am talking about. He says he can't tell me what to do but I can tell he wants me to do something. I am scared and depressed. I have broken down crying to my kids and telling them what has happened. I just want to be with my kids. My 7 year old just knows that I am here after school.
That he can have play dates with his friends. I take all the kids to lots if sports activities. I fix things around the house that most people would hire out. I am tired from all this. I just want our home to be happy again. I just want to be at home with my kids. I went on line looking for jobs from your house and it is full of scams. It's ridiculous. I wish I could work out of my house for a few hours a day but I don't see anything out there like this. I keep hoping my husband will get paid and will get caught up but it's like a steam roller. I feel like I would be working to pay for the high school fees and I do not think that is fair. It was my husbands idea to send my son to the private high school.
He said at the time that I should not worry about that. Now, he comes home with fright in his eyes. He is angry most if the time. It's like a complete different person. I feel like I don't know what I am doing anymore. I am so confused. When I ask him will he be operating in the black again to cover our monthly expenses,
He does not answer. He says he feels like crying and the bills are crushing him.
I worked in the corporate world for 15 years and I cannot imagine going back and how it will change everything for my kids. It is so hard with 3 kids spanning many years. I just cannot believe this mess. I did corporate telecom sales and consulting. I just cannot imagine going back to that world.
I do not want to. I now go to get groceries and look at people's full carts of food and wish it was mine. I have never lived like this before. Worrying about food! I am lost and scared. My kids are list and scared too. We try to act like nothing is wrong but it is so hard. my kids are not used to this at all. its hard to be with our friends too. Our friends have no idea all this is happening because it is so embarrassing. i just want it to be like it was a couple of years ago. I started to look at my résumé and it just makes me cry. Just thinking about never being home for my kids. Well, if anyone has any advice I would appreciate your time and feedback.