Amy - posted on 04/19/2014 ( 38 moms have responded )
So my 6 month old son's grandparents (my boyfriends parents) are and want to be way too involved for my liking. They want to see our son all the time and complain to my boyfriend when they don't. Okay yes, they live about 20 minutes away, but what do they expect?? My boyfriend works 50-60 hours/week, gets home at 5:30pm and it's like they expect him to come over every other day with my child after he gets home (granted, my boyfriend is willing to do this once in awhile because he loves his family and wants them and our son to interact more than they do and he also wants to see his family). I am the one who is not okay with this. And my boyfriend also doesn't ever want to invite me to go with because he knows I don't enjoy seeing them with our son---but that hurts my feelings because I want to go with if my son is going. I don't hate his parents at all,i just find their interaction with my son to be overbearing and annoying. They need to stop asking when they're gonna get to see him. If it were up to me it would probably be very, very rarely. They are not bad people at all--in fact, they are very loving and kind and I used to have a very close relationship with his mother before my son was born--but now i can't stand them and i want them to back off. I really, really want to feel better about this and not have such negative feelings towards them and how/when they see our son but it's really hard. They are visiting this afternoon to give our son a bunch of Easter presents, and I really don't know how to feel about it. My head says to just continue behaving/feeling how I have (i.e. last time they visited, i left just before they got here and went to get groceries and didn't come back until they were gone) because it's just easier...but my heart really wants to enjoy their company and have positive feelings about them seeing our son. I just can't stand how much they (especially gramma!) are in his face all the time and holding him and never putting him down!!! Please set me straight with all this and tell me how i can feel better about the grandparents and my son spending time together!!!!
Am I the only person who thinks this is too much??? How involved are your families in your lives with your children and husband/boyfriend???