help my sons grandma want to raise my kid

Tanya - posted on 12/01/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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im not sure wat to do my sons is 6 months almost 7 and at his check up he weigh 15 pounds the doc said i was doing fine but my sons grandma wont follow my feeding schedule when she has him and my fiance doesnt back me up wat should i do

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Juanita - posted on 10/21/2013

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I know how you feel my kids grandma takes control too much she told me and her son that her grandson our son needs occupational therpy. I told her he does not need it i stay at home everyday with him and he eats what he wants and has no problems, but she went over me and made a appoinmet anyways and she said she taking him. And she says im irresponsiable . And her son takes her side every time. She actually threathens us that she will take the kids from us everyday cause she works for a stand up lawyer !

Terri - posted on 12/02/2009

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If the doctor says everything is fine, don't worry what others say. Tell Grandma if she wants to be with the kids to please do as you say. Tell your honey to get a back bone & stand up for you or lose him. My daughter weighed just 19 lbs. at a year & she was fine.

Amanda - posted on 12/01/2009

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I wouldn't let her take care of him any more. If she can't respect your feeding schedule then tell her that you won't be able to let her take care of him. What if you bring her along on his next check up and get the doc to explain to her that what your doing is fine and that he is healthy. About your fiance maybe you should sit down and have a talk with him, see if you guys can get on the same page or where he stands with this at all. well good luck.

Laurel - posted on 12/01/2009

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Oh, u can back off spending time with mother-in-law, but make him responsible for the child when he takes him to visit. It is so funny how he suddenly wants to enforce your rules and she wants to play ball because the visits are less often. I had a very bitter war with inlaw and now I'm able to live with her while I finish school.

YOU ARE THE LAW!

Laurel - posted on 12/01/2009

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LIE!! I know it sounds bad, but I'm willing to bet that the fiance doesn't go to the doctors with him. Tell them that your doctor said that she wants to make sure that he stays on this schedule because they need to monitor his eating habits to make sure that he is indeed as healthy as he may appear (say he's getting to fat for his age or something). Suddenly they will be more willing to follow your plan.

If that doesn't work, get in his face, constantly, about it. He's going with mom because he was raised by her so there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with it since he's made it. My husband did something similar with the timeout thing, and eventually I want the f*** off on people and they got the point. Could you imagine him having such a messed up dramatic childhood and trying to repeat some of that stupid stuff with my kids?

If all else fails, pull the mother card: "I carried that baby and gave birth. I'm his mother which means that I have the final word on everything." They may do it when you're not around, but if you fuss each time, they will start to do it just to shut you up. I'm the pushy b**** that not even the man in the family that puts his two sense in with EVERYONE will attempt to correct me because I'm more concerned about my kids than them liking me.

Remember, they will dislike you for a time, but then they see that it doesn't really matter if they just go ahead and do it your way or their way. They conceed because it's not something big enough in their world to fight about (u are mom 24/7 while they are only a few hours a day). Things calm down and everyone falls into line.

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I think you should explain to her the feeding routine and give her a written schedule and at the same time tell her that if she does not follow it she can't look after your son ever again! Also it sounds like your fiance has a bad case of the apron strings, the only way to get him over that is spend as little time around his mother and tell him if he doesn't back you up you walk! Worked for me :).

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