Melissa - posted on 02/26/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )
Hi everyone...PS this is a total venting post seeking advice
Let me begin by saying I love my mom to death and she is very good to my son. However she is increasing getting on my nerves. I am a total non-confrontational person where she on the other hand is not. She has always been fiesty and able to speak her mind. I guess thats there the problem lies- we are totally different and she takes full advantage of the fact that I'm easy going.
My son Owen who is now 10 mths old has been sick ALL of February (its crazy!) and I have kept him in for the most part the whole month because he has an ear infection and the croup, not very comfortable conditions. Well my mother lives over an hour away and we just havent been able to see her. I did drive there one time (i still have friends there) and she was unavailable. She also had an entire week off work this month and never offered to come visit us at my home (it is an open invitation and she knows it) So i get the guilt trip that my son doesnt know who she is, she is nothing to him, he wont even recognize her, and she only sees him once a month. Which is a total exaggeration because we get together at LEAST 2-3 times a month and like i said she lives far. Just this month because he was sick..it is now ALL THE TIME.
Then of course she tells me "maybe you should/ or shouldn't "do this or that when it comes to Owen being sick. Maybe if I got him home earlier in the day and not at night so he isnt exposed to night air (this of course doesn't apply while we are with her). Maybe i'm not administering his medication properly (are you sure you read the label right?!?!?!?!?!?!) Maybe I should keep the house cleaner, maybe the croup is really allergies to DUST (she is like Marie Barrone) meanwhile my home is very clean but it is currently under going some renovations but I have been diligent about the dust.
Then we had an issue with my son's circumcision and how did she respond to that??.....Maybe you're not cleaning him right. What the heck does thathave to do with if the SURGERY was done properly. PS Im her only kid..she's never been around a baby boy before but now she knows everything about keeping them properly clean.
I should probably add that she and my MIL do not get along or even like eachother enough to be in the same room comfortably. My MIL lives 15 minutes from me and sees my son considerably more and she is his primary babysitter when my hubby and I get a date night. I think my mother is furiously jealous and it has somehow become a compitition for my sons love with her..she is the only one competing! lol...oh God help me lol
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE send me your advice on what to do and if you too experience this. Its tough because its not even my MIL (she's cool) its my OWN MOM
Thanks (sorry for the venting lol)