help needed with my toddler

Linda - posted on 04/10/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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hi mums
mys on matthew is 2years and 6 mths old, his behaviour lately is so difficult he whines all the time demands things all the time i cant take him shooping he wants for everything. he refuses to let go of his dummy and also refuses to sit on the toilet..im finding him so difficult need advice please.
thanks ladies

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My suggestion for the potty training is give him a treat when he goes in the potty like a big boy. If he does NOT go in the potty..and he makes a mess...then MAMA gets to eat the treat. That advice came from another Mom here on COM and it has saved my LIFE! Or at least my sanity.



I don't have a cure-all for the dummy, I never let my son get attached to one. But, my best friend did. Her daughter was hung up on a dummy that squeaked as the kid chewed on it. The dang dummy got a hole in it...didn't squeak anymore. That little girl screamed like a BANSHEE for about two days. She didn't want a NEW squeaky dummy...she wanted HER squeaky dummy. It took about two days for her to get over it...and never looked back. My suggestion would be try 'breaking' the dummy? mess it up, cut a slit in it...find a way to make it 'broke' and it's not your fault...it's just, broke.



I read a great article a while back about saying NO. Instead of just barking out NO. NO candy, NO cookies, NO you can't climb the recliner, NO you can't chew on the dog's ear...Try giving him a reason. Don't just say no, but say, "We can have candy later, We are going to eat dinner in a minute." "It's night-time, we can't go outside and play in the dark, tomorrow we can go outside and play."

I hope something I've said here helps..good luck and stick to 'yer guns! No means no...no matter how nice you have said it.

Wendy - posted on 04/10/2011

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my kids loved theirs' too :) another thing you can do to get him off of the dummy is snip the tip of it day by day and then he might throw it away on his own. Or find all the dummys in the house, let him help you to put them in a "binky for baby bag"(after sanitizing them first) and give them to a nursey in the hopsital. Let your son give the nurses the bag because he dont need them anymore....then relpace his dummys for a new sippy cup or toy of his choice!!!! Hope this helps too :)

Linda - posted on 04/10/2011

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thanks wendy i will give that a go..he took his dummy away when he was 18mths old then got sick and i gave it back for comfort now he is super attached??? demands it night and day???

Wendy - posted on 04/10/2011

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hi Linda! I dont know how much I would be of help because I have a 3 1/2 year old little girl and 7 1/2 year old son and both to me where not easy to potty train. It takes time. Try sitting your son on the potty just for a few minutes and see if he goes with you sitting next to him while reading a book, if not praise him anyway for trying to go like a big boy :) As far as his dummy, gradually take it away say, mornings then he take have it back when he naps, if he takes a nap and also let him have it at bedtime and see if this helps you. I took our kids binky away when they were a little over 1 year old. It was hard for them(and me at the same timme) at first but they managed and no more binky, we gave them to the binky fairy! Good luck!

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