Debra - posted on 11/13/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )
Im an older woman with a younger boyfriend (49/38) > It has been brought to his attention that his little girl is living in an unstable household. He is now wanting to get custody. We live together for 2 yrs with my 2 young adults and 1 teen. I am very much in love with this man but Im having a problem with accepting motherhood with a baby again. I feel that I'm being selfish but I also feel I have done my time with babies. I did the things that involved raising 3 respectable and responsible children.
How do i handle this? We discussed it once prior to this situation, so he knows my feelings about this, but now its unfolding to the fact that she needs to get out of her mothers care. I either give in and become a "so called mommie" again or I may lose him. He accepted me as a package deal. I knew he had a daughter but never did it cross my mind that he may have wanted custody ever. I can handle a summer visitation every summer but permanent arrangements are not what I had planned for my future. Please help.