Help on how to start putting my baby to bed on her own!

Fauve - posted on 08/04/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I have a 4 month old daughter who is a great sleeper at night, but it's getting her to go to sleep thats the problem. We try putting her in her crib and try letting her fall alseep on her own but she will cry for hours on end. We always rock and walk with her to help her go to sleep but I want to know if it is to early to start letting her fall asleep on her own and if you also have tips on how to do this. I hate seeing her cry, but I want to do this as early as possible or i know it will be a problem as she gets older.

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Katie - posted on 11/11/2011

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Try getting an excercise ball. I use to bathe my son, feed him, read to him, sing, change him, and swaddle him nice and snuggly. I would lay him down with white noise in the backround, not asleep just sleepy. Leave the room. If she cries more than ten minutes or you are upset by her cries go to her, pat her tummy, sing to her, stroke her face, and leave again. I know its hard. You can always move her back into your room if you don't feel like she is ready. Its perfectly fine to do what you feel is right for your child.

Amanda - posted on 11/09/2011

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Personally I believe 4 months old is to young for YOUR baby to be put to sleep on her own. If she crys for hours on end she needs her mommy, or daddy.



Holding her will NOT hurt her. I have 3 children, ages 13, 12, 3, and guess what they all sleep on their own. My 3 year old has been going to bed at 8 pm on her own since 2 years old.



I have NEVER allowed my children to cry it out under a year old. I have ALWAYS held my children to sleep under a year old. They are all well adjusted children, whom all sleep well.

Terra - posted on 11/09/2011

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i just read your earlier comment.. my baby was the exact same way (lay her in the crib and wakes up right away) so i started spending more time with her in her room, i will play on the floor with her, rock her and even put her play mat in the crib for her to play with so she would get used to being in the crib.. now for every nap she is in their (most of them anyway- shes in her swing sleeping now lol).. and for the swing part. Brihanna sleeps 4-6 hours in her crib and then i move her to the swing and she sleeps their for about 4 hours.... a few nights when she wasnt sleeping in her crib at all (and bringing her to bed with me was causing me to get NO sleep) she slept the full night in her swing apparently a lot of ppl do it.. but i wanna get mine out of that routine because eventually shes gonna b too heavy then im back at the begining trying to get her to sleep the FULL night..and in her crib.

Terra - posted on 11/09/2011

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id say hold her till she is really tired but not asleep and put her in her crib.. thats what i do with my daughter and every now and then i will put her in awake she will "talk" a little bit and then fall asleep on her own.. when im holding her and she falls asleep she usually holds onto my finger so i place a teddys hand or arm in her hand and she holds onto that.. so try an find somehting she tends to associate with fallin asleep maybe that will work :) good luck. mines 3 1/2 months

Cathralynn - posted on 08/18/2009

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Me too! Our daughter napped in the swing as well, mostly cause I don't want to bedshare or hold her. We forced napping in the crib at the same time as putting her down on her own. But I agree, just wait til after six mo and see what she works out on her own. Then pay attention to her natural pattern and get her to nap in her crib then. Best of luck to you!

Fauve - posted on 08/18/2009

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Thank you everyone for all the information. I have my daughter on a routine, we do the bath,pj's, cereal, bottle and she usually falls asleep by the time shes done her bottle. We do the same thing every night but I asked my doctor and she recommended i wait until she's around 6 months to lay her in her crib. I think the biggest problem now is that she wont nap anywhere but the swing! I keep laying her in the crib and she wakes right up in a matter of minutes. I try to keep her awake as much as possible during the day , but when she gets really fussy she will nap and she has to be in the swing! I love it, but i dont want her sleeping in it. I just dont know if i am the only one who thinks this way. Thank you for all you replies!

Chi - posted on 08/07/2009

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Hello all parents!!! Well my so is now 13 weeks old and it's all about routine. Bottle, bath, little play time, and it's quite time. At the begining he was waking up every 2 hours but now, he wakes up 1 time and goes right to sleep. The issue that I have is, he punks us. Meaning he looks tired and nearly falling asleep but soon as we lay him down... Wide eyed and ready to play... Gotta love it.

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Hiee', no need to fear. She probably does'nt like sleepin alone. I had the same problem with my son (he's a year old now). He had a hard time sleepin in his crib at night. I came to let him sleep with his dad and I. I know it sounds alittle uncomfortable, but it works. Now he's taking naps on his own. I started letting him sleep on his stomache and he sleeps all night long. I tried one night sleeping on my back like the doctors suggest I do for him. Horrible!!! Totally felt aggrivated the next morning. If sleeping with her parents to feel her security. Then try laying her on her stomache.

Cathralynn - posted on 08/06/2009

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I rocked my daughter until she fussed at rocking and then started laying her down on her own. We never let her fall asleep breastfeeding or drinking a bottle. So it worked pretty easy for us. I think try to make sure your daughter is calm and drowsy before you try and then you can work up to its bedtime now and you are wide awake. Routine is most important. We did bath, pjs, bottle (on the couch), rocking (in her room in the dark), and bed. Now my daughter is 14mo we do bath, pjs, milk in a cup, teeth brushing, read a book and bed. I think its important to signal bedtime and a routine helps. We also use a sound machine at bedtime and nap time. That means its time to relax and go to sleep. Its worked since she was a few months old (I can't remember but may have been closer to six mo). You may want to wait a lil longer if your daughter doesn't do it on her own. I always heard you respond to all cries until 6mo or so.

Heather - posted on 08/06/2009

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I waited until my baby was around 6 to 7 months to let her fall asleep on her own. but when it is bed time comfort her w/o taking her out of the crib

Teresa - posted on 08/06/2009

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This works for my baby. We keep his routine the same everynight, bath, book and a bottle. After he is relaxed but not asleep I lay him in his crib and within about 5-10 minutes he is asleep. He is 7 months old and has been doing this since around 5 months. But I do get the occasinal nights whre he just will not go to sleep and then I just have to rock and sing him to sleep.

Autumn - posted on 08/04/2009

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Does your little one have her own bedroom?

My son started putting him self to sleep at around 6 months old. For Christmas he got a light and music thing that shines shapes on the wall and plays soothing music for him. Every night we eat around 7/8 then bath with the lilac soap then he plays for a little while. Next he gets a 5 oz bottle and while he was still awake but very sleepy, we would lay him down and he gets his binki and with in 10 min he is out.

Sarah - posted on 08/04/2009

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I have a 2 month old and so far what i've been doing seems to work. He can go to bed with his eyes wide open even though I know he's sleepy and he will put himself to sleep. Anyways what I do is very similar to the last persons post. We started the bedtime routine very early. He gets his last bottle and then we do bath time and then we do the Johnson and Johnsons bedtime lotion (love the stuff) and his powder. He gets a fresh diaper and a fleecie sleep and play which helps keep him warm after his bath. We then do a bedtime story and we cuddle in the rocker until he starts to look drowsy...usually about 10 min. once he starts fading in and out but isnt asleep yet I put him in his crib, tuck him in, pop his passy in his mouth and that usually works. If he starts to cry I go in and do not pick him up, instead just try calming her down and singing to her, rub her head and try to calm her that way. That way she can get used to the fact that she isnt going to be picked up every little time she cries. It may take a bit of comforting but they definately get it eventually. I have a friend with an 8 month old going through the same thing. She gets frustrated but she is following this same routine and her son is getting a lot better with his night time routine. I hope this helps and good luck!

Tiffany - posted on 08/04/2009

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good for you for starting now!!!i did it at the same age with my son, and NEVER had any issues. even my mom ( who had 5 kids) can't believe how easy he goes down!

have music on, i used instramental only, no words, and a nightlight.

you will have to figure out what your child likes, and i didnt use any toys at first. just A blanket, and he was fine. but the earlier the better!! so good for you!!

Chris - posted on 08/04/2009

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Get her into a bedtime routine and stick to it. Do the same thing every single night and in the same order. Also, get lullabies for her room. We purchased an MP3 player and downloaded all her lullaby CD's to it, then hooked it up to a CD player. Now they both have music every time they sleep. The music really helps them calm down and get relaxed. And if she's doing the same thing every night, she will know what to expect.



Our routine: Bath, pajamas, read, pray, music, and bed. We've been doing this routine with both of our girls since they were 1 month old, and for the most part they have been sleeping through the night since then.



Make sure you rule out all possibilities for fussing: hungry, teething, cold, hot, whatever. When you put her in the crib let her stay by herself. If she fusses, let her be for 10 - 15 minutes. If she's screaming her head off, go in after 10 minutes. But if she's just whimpering let her be, she is testing you. Eventually she will put herself to sleep.

Amy - posted on 08/04/2009

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so no one gets mad this is what i have been told by a child development specialist and my doctor. Babies like darkness and coolness. She may be to hot and it may not be dark enough. My son is a year old and for the life of me can't get him to go to sleep by himself. Try getting her on her way to sleep then lay her in her crib. Letting them cry it out doesnt always work. The other thing is she may not be tired at that time. Another thing that may help is limit the length of naps during the day, This will make her be tired when you make your attempts at going to sleep. Hope this helps

Michelle - posted on 08/04/2009

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Does she have a certain toy she enjoys? My daughter has been sleeping through the night since she was 3 months old. She has to have her room DARK (I'm talking no light at all) and she has a Winnie the Pooh light up stuffie. We turn it on for her as she is getting ready to go to sleep and she'll just lay there and stare at him while she sucks her thumb and puts herself to sleep. We have been putting her down awake for awhile now, it took her a bit to get use to it, but she does well most nights. There is still the odd night we have to rock her. Good luck!

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