Help overbearing Grandmother

Jennifer - posted on 09/12/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My mom I love her to death but she is hindering my child and undermines my parenting. I took her in and now take care of her and my child. So she helps with picking him up and dropping him off for school and helps him with school work because I am gone most of the day due to work. Now my son has special needs. But he needs to learn how to be dependent according to the school which is true he is ten yrs old and i just got her to stop going into the bathroom with him. She gives him everything to the the point all he does is just sit down and play games. The moment i say anything is the moment we start arguing. I can't discipline him because that's another headache. And I'm talking about hey pick up your things I repeat myself 6 times until i say ok no more games for the rest of the day. She will argue with me like it's her child and my son will tell me but nana will do it. However when he does not listen to her, I get called like your child is not listening to me! Till i tell him when i get home your getting a time out. Once she over hears my conversation with my son she calms down and say don't worry about I will take care of him and i come home later and he just relaxing playing games. So i Will say ok time out for you and me and her will argue. It so bad my child does not listen to me because he always say nana told me i can, nana said its okay, nana will do it, my son is completely dependent on her and she has him thinking his "issues" are the reason he can't do anything. What can I do?

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Michelle - posted on 10/01/2017

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Hello,

First I would ask if you have had the opportunity to speak to your mother about this one on one. You can voice your concerns and help her understand why you feel the way you do. I can hear from your post that you greatly appreciate the work that she does to help out with your son by picking up and dropping off at school and I think that letting her know this would be helpful. Is it possible that she doesn't fully understand the extent of your son's special needs? If that is the case maybe some education could take place to help her better support you in your parenting. I hope that you both can find a way to continue to be strong and positive influences in your precious boys life.

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2017

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Hello,

First I would ask if you have had the opportunity to speak to your mother about this one on one. You can voice your concerns and help her understand why you feel the way you do. I can hear from your post that you greatly appreciate the work that she does to help out with your son by picking up and dropping off at school and I think that letting her know this would be helpful. Is it possible that she doesn't fully understand the extent of your son's special needs? If that is the case maybe some education could take place to help her better support you in your parenting. I hope that you both can find a way to continue to be strong and positive influences in your precious boys life.

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2017

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Hello,

First I would ask if you have had the opportunity to speak to your mother about this one on one. You can voice your concerns and help her understand why you feel the way you do. I can hear from your post that you greatly appreciate the work that she does to help out with your son by picking up and dropping off at school and I think that letting her know this would be helpful. Is it possible that she doesn't fully understand the extent of your son's special needs? If that is the case maybe some education could take place to help her better support you in your parenting. I hope that you both can find a way to continue to be strong and positive influences in your precious boys life.

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2017

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Hello,

First I would ask if you have had the opportunity to speak to your mother about this one on one. You can voice your concerns and help her understand why you feel the way you do. I can hear from your post that you greatly appreciate the work that she does to help out with your son by picking up and dropping off at school and I think that letting her know this would be helpful. Is it possible that she doesn't fully understand the extent of your son's special needs? If that is the case maybe some education could take place to help her better support you in your parenting. I hope that you both can find a way to continue to be strong and positive influences in your precious boys life.

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2017

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Hello,

First I would ask if you have had the opportunity to speak to your mother about this one on one. You can voice your concerns and help her understand why you feel the way you do. I can hear from your post that you greatly appreciate the work that she does to help out with your son by picking up and dropping off at school and I think that letting her know this would be helpful. Is it possible that she doesn't fully understand the extent of your son's special needs? If that is the case maybe some education could take place to help her better support you in your parenting. I hope that you both can find a way to continue to be strong and positive influences in your precious boys life.

Michelle - posted on 10/01/2017

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Hello,

First I would ask if you have had the opportunity to speak to your mother about this one on one. You can voice your concerns and help her understand why you feel the way you do. I can hear from your post that you greatly appreciate the work that she does to help out with your son by picking up and dropping off at school and I think that letting her know this would be helpful. Is it possible that she doesn't fully understand the extent of your son's special needs? If that is the case maybe some education could take place to help her better support you in your parenting. I hope that you both can find a way to continue to be strong and positive influences in your precious boys life.

Jennifer - posted on 09/12/2017

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I've explained to her that she is hindering his growth and and she ignores me she's just like I am his grandmother I can baby him all I want. I am like no you can't because it's hurting him and she said I am being ridiculous. I can't afford another living arraignment for her it so expense in NY and she doesn't work. It's so hard. I feel stuck. Talking doesn't seem to get to her.

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