Help! Overwhelmed and burned out single working mother of 8 month old

April - posted on 12/17/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




I am a single full time working mother of an 8 month old girl. I am finding that I am getting more and more frustrated with the constant need for attention and constant need for supervision since she is now climbing and crawling everywhere. I hate being frustrated with her because I am away from her 40+ hours a week at work and I want to spend as much time as possible with her at night and on the weekends, but I also have house cleaning, laundry, paperwork, bill paying, getting myself showered and dressed for work, etc...she does not give me a minute to get any of this done. If I put her in her playpen she screams, if I go into the other room she screams (or falls and then screams), if I am not holding her at all times she screams... I don't know if there is actually something wrong or if she is just spoiled and I feel guilty if I put her down and let her scream it out (plus the screaming drives me absolutely NUTS!) Does anyone have any advice? I feel so alone in this!


Cameo - posted on 12/19/2012




Baby Einstein video tapes/ DVDs/ or YouTube videos of them. ( every goodwill/ salvation army/ thrift stores/ Craigslist will have them.)
Baby can even sit in your lap watching a small window on computer screen while you are checking email on a bigger window.
She will watch, listen, learn, and soon will sit and watch it alone.
Talk about what is on the screen as you wash a dish or pay a bill.
There are videos 30 minutes long! That's laundry, dishes, and a quick potty break! All moms get overwhelmed at times, this is hardwork...motherhood is not for sissies and baby einstein is an appropriate attention grabber . Good luck.

Gwen - posted on 12/17/2012




I know your pain! Let the housecleaning go until the weekend. She will only be a baby for such a short time. Spend every minute you can loving and playing with her. She is not spoiled, she misses her mommy and needs the attention. I used to put my daughter in the swing, walker or highchair so we could see each other and talk or play peek-a-boo while freeing up my hands to cook supper or whatever. Put her in the stroller and go for a walk. It's a great way for you to get out of the house for a little while, de-stress and enjoy nature together. Hang in there...


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ANGELA - posted on 12/18/2012




Girl. We've all been there. Just try to understand your frustration is not with the baby but the situation. Hire a sitter or a housekeeper to lighten your load. Try to hang out with some other mommies to vent and get it all out. The evening stroll (even if for 10 minutes is enough). I've even gotten my son in a routine to go to bed 1/2 hour earlier so I can get some much needed rest.

There are way to get out of this rut and you'll find them but try not to be so hard on yourself.
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