HELP Please

Christina - posted on 04/11/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




Ok I have a wonderful 5 year old son who is amazing and smart. His biological father is not in his life that much at all. He does come and take him every other weekend as long as it doesn't interrupt with his plans for that weekend. When my son does go to his house he comes back and has severe discipline issues. I am at my wits end. I was wondering if any one else has the same issues or any advice on how to handle it. Thanks everyone


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Michelle - posted on 04/11/2011




this is normal behavior most children go through what is called a transition period where they have to readjust to the rules from one house to the other. Dads rules are probably very relaxed and moms are more firm so he is pushing his boundaries. What I do with my son is we give him an hour of alone time when he gets home to get his bearings and to regroup before we hang out together by then he is usually calm and relaxed and ready to follow our rules.

Jodi - posted on 04/11/2011




It sounds pretty normal. My son used to be much the same. Boys in particular need structure in their lives, and unfortunately, every other weekend at dad's house throws that structure out the window, and can create a little chaos. My son used to have some attitude and discipline issues and it would take 2 or 3 days to get him back into routine again.

I'll be honest, I just accepted this is is the way it was, and really cracked down hard when he got home from his dad's to make sure he got back into routine as quickly as possible.

I DO think a part of his behaviour was because he was always allowed to stay up late at his dad's house, and he came home VERY tired, so early nights for a few days afterwards, and I also made sure I did not plan any major activities, outings or changes in that few days after he came home.

He's outgrown it to a degree, but even at 13, he comes home tired, which then tends to feed his attitude. But being the age he is, one early night seems to do the trick now.

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