Help please, I need advice for my autistic son and unprofessional public school staff

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I have a son who turns 3 in a couple weeks. He was diagnosed by a psychologist for severe autism last year and I have been working with a team of specialists to help my son with his challenges through early intervention. I am now in the transition to get him into the special education program at the public school and it's been a frustrating process. My son was found eligible and we were working towards his goals. Being limited on time (60 minutes allowed) we tried to address the most important, and for me my biggest concern was my sons biting, running and climbing and keeping his clothes and diaper on. Mostly safety and sensory concerns. So because we were running out of time I gave them examples as to why I feel so strongly about him having a one on one skills trainer or an assistant on the first day of school. I condensed his 3 years of life's story in 5 minutes and gave some really strong examples of what he does and how he is including running away, climbing, biting, not wanting to wear his diaper etc... They took my safety concerns somehow turned it around and reported me to cps saying that I allow my son to defecate all over my house because I don't want to purchase diapers, that I leave him outside unsupervised and let him climb on things and they are worried about him. I was so shocked, hurt and angry that they would misconstrue my words like this. They are professionals who specialize in early intervention. I trusted them to use my examples to prepare themselves for my son and try and get extra help for him. Clearly I was wrong. What bothers me the most about what is happening is that they don't even wait to work with him and see what my concerns are. The teacher and other staff members are quick to pass judgment on me. They even at one point try to dismiss his autism diagnosis saying he's not 'text' book autistic. Well when he was evaluated by a clinical psychologist she told me my son was in fact text book autistic. Is it even professional for teachers to even say things about his diagnosis like that? Right now my son works with the dept of health, my sons team of specialists currently know all his challenges and works with me on his biting, climbing, running away, putting things in his mouth. I guess I got so used to bringing up my concerns with his current team of specialists that I assumed his school would work me me too like they do but instead they make me look like an incompetent mother and report me to cps. When cps called and I told her my sons team knows all the issues you were called about and they've tried everything to help me and we've had success in some areas and very slow in others. The cps lady told me well what did the school say when you brought up these concerns? I told her nothing, they just reported me to you guys. She then said, ...well they should have worked with you and came up with a plan instead of calling me. I didn't know what to say after that but I'm so offended and hurt and shocked right now that I'm not even sure I want to go to the next meeting at the school and offer anymore words to them because I fear them twisting my words around and reporting me again. Any advice would be great.

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