Lori - posted on 08/12/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )
Hi Moms... My 3 year old son gets mad if he gets in trouble and often he says "I'm gonna poop on the floor" when he is mad. But he never does it. Well, today he got in trouble for hurting his sister and I put him on a stool in time out. Well he muttered something about how he was going to pee, but I didn't think he would. Well, he did pee in his underwear after just being in time out for less than a minute. I am 99% sure he did it on purpose. So, has anyone else had a kid do something so rebellious and disrespectful? My older 2 kids just were very well behaved, so I never had any kind of problem like this before. My 3 year nold is a very sweet and loving andf good kid about 80% of the time - very smart and very emotionally and socially aware. But when he gets mad (either not getting what he wants or getting in trouble and being chastised) he will say things like "I don't love you" or "I don't want that anyway" or "I'm going to poop on the floor." Now, he has never followed through with any threats of going to the bathroom on the floor for retaliation, but obviously with the time out today he did pee and I think it was indeed on purpose. If he just had an accident of course I would not get mad at him. But I just feel like it was such an act of defiance to pee on purpose like that!!! He got potty trained about 6 weeks ago and has been doing great with it. Anyway, am I overreacting? Do you think doing that seems super rebellious? I took away a couple of his favorite trucks for just 5 to 10 minutes and he was super upset and then was very apologetic about everything. I usually make him apologize before he can end his time out (Usually only takes a short time). But he can ber very, very stubborn. He can also be extremely sweet and charismatic and he knows he is so cute. He is also the first one to always tell us he loves us, so it is always weird when he gets mad and says he doesn't love us! I know he doesn't mean it, but still find it a little disconcerting. I have started telling him not to say mean words... for awhile I just ignored it so as to not give him the idea that it upset us too much. I try not to make power struggles where there don't have to be any with him... Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated!!!!!! Help!