HELP!!!!!!!! Should we keep trying to conceive after a year??

Penny - posted on 09/16/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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My husband and I have been trying for a year now to have another baby, but to no success. Should we keep trying or just give up and be happy with the daughter we have, If not what suggestions can ppl give me to help the conception process?

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Never give up. If you and hubby went for your check-ups and everything is ok, then do't give up. Work out when you concive and keep track of your periods. Take it easy and do not rush things. We tried for 4 years untill me and my hubby start to do quadbiking. We forgot all about trying. I even made peace with not having a baby oneday and all of a sudden I god the good news. Keep faith in God. He might be slow but never late!!!! Best of luck! ;-)

Amy - posted on 09/16/2009

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YES keep tryin I was unable to have a successful pregnancy for 4 YEARS and im expecting my daughter Nov 28! Try ovulation tests it does not matter there price because I did them for years and it finally paid off!

Mel - posted on 09/16/2009

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Absolutely keep trying!! Otherwise you would stop having sex!!!! Your body isnt ready to get pregnant thats why it isnt. Maybe you are putting yourself under a lot of pressure regarding falling pregnant again. Maybe your husband is a bit stressed too! If you are concerned perhaps speak with your doctor. But he would tell you to relax first and let nature take its course. Perhaps your husband and yourself could just chill on the 'trying' and then see what happens. Make sure your body is ready too, perhaps take more folate, reduce caffeine, yo could always check your most fertile days and then try on theose days. You can puchase the packs from the pharmacy. In it it ichecks your basil temperature, analyses your menstrual cycle and then works out your most fertile days down to the time you should be having sex!!!!

I wish you luck with it and hope it turns out well for you. In th meantime just have fun trying!!!!! PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT :-)

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Lau - posted on 09/16/2009

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yes : yes and emphatically yes !! go see a specialist as to the cause of the problem : if you've managed to have one, there's clearly maybe a minor issue blocking the next one :) ... It took me 9 years to find out something was wrong before my first one was born - it's only when I investigated that they found a condition that was blocking the process :) GOOD LUCK !! Hang in there

MJ - posted on 09/16/2009

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It's hard to stop trying when this is all you want right now...I know i felt like a complete failure...like i was broken or something, when everyone else did it first time, and I just couldn't. So many of my friends had so much advice like have you checked your temperature, but days is the best days to fall pregnant in your cycle. The one thing I needed was my husband to let me know that it was ok, and that it was not our time, and we would be ready when it happened. So in that moment...i realised it was a bigger picture of him and me...and a baby was our bonus you might say. Well two months later i was pregnant...and wow...it happened so fast that the long wait was worth the time just being my husband and I. Good luck. Don't be in dispair, and if you are unsure, please speak to your GP.

Manette - posted on 09/16/2009

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Keep Trying, after 3 boys and 12 years of trying I finally got my girl, and one more boy.

Elisabete - posted on 09/16/2009

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HI i too have problems when i try to conceive as i have pocs, iam pregnant with number 6 now but each time i want a kid it takes me 3 years each time adn having to do"you know what every second day"my advise to you is get some ovulations strips ,lots of them an the day after you have a period test yourself daily,the minute you get a positive even if its faint go for it for 4 days straight at least 2 times a day.also if you have weight problems like me and find it impossible to lose weight nd hate diets.do as i did i lost 5 kg enough to get pregnant,i got gumballs(no joke) adn i ate my normal breakfast but reduse the intake so if your used to having 4 slices of toast have 2 instead,dnt have coffee or coke go for orange juice and cordial or water,cause that can make it harder to conceive,and everytime you get hungry between meals have a gum ball cause it tricks your stomach to think your eating . also have iron tablets thats doctors always tell you to take prior to pregnancy.i had a curet after losing my last baby and 2 mths after the curet i got pregnant by doing this .

if you need to talk or want more advice let me know .dnt give up

Deane - posted on 09/16/2009

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of course you should keep trying! my husband and I tried for 4 years before we had our son and. He was our first baby. We were too focused on the task...it was when we stopped "trying" that we actually concieved. Don't think about it. tat adds more stress and makes you feel more overwhelmed...

Cassandra - posted on 09/16/2009

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Hi Penny, Well i tried to conceive for over 12 months and finally went to seek help at a doctors and he refferred us to treatment.. however there was a long wait.. so we decided while waiting we would stop trying and start planning our wedding.. anyway i dont know whether it was because we were occupied with other things but i fell pregnant with my son 3 days before our treatment started.. was amazing!! Maybe just stop trying and go with whatever happens happens.. or even book in for treatment and see if that works lol.. as when i rang to cancel treatment the lady on the phone told me that 75% of bookings end up being pregnant before even starting!!



good luck with it all!!

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my husband and i tried for years and had one miscarriage... we went to a specialist who said we couldn't get pregnant on our own and took the cheaper cost and had an IUI... we were lucky and got pregnant on the first try... 11 months after having him, we had a set of twins with no help from anyone. I think you should keep trying, but don't pressure yourself. I think that was our problem is the trying all the time and the right time, it was just a bit much.. i wish you luck and it'll happen when you're not ready for it.

Lisa - posted on 09/16/2009

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Of course you should keep trying. My husband and I tried for over a yr. and we finally had our little girl and then 16 mths later I got pregnate with his first little boy. Don't give up. God will bless you.

Leslie - posted on 09/16/2009

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Sure.....you should keep trying for sure!! That is the best part!!! LOL If you just relax you will conceive if it is meant to be. I was in a similar situation and now I have four kids....you'll be fine.

Megan - posted on 09/16/2009

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My fiance and I tried for 2 years to get pregnant. I think that it's true when they say that stress plays a factor in conception. You need to stop trying, and just... have sex for fun. It'll happen when you least expect it. For me, when I gave up on the idea of being pregnant, and started to go to the gym to get a hot new bod, that's when it happened. Although, I KNEW in my heart it would for some reason. I lost 20 pound in just a couple months of gym going, and almost everyday that I was running on that treadmill, I had this nagging voice in the back of my mind would say "Watch now... I'm going to get pregnant when I'm trying really hard to get sexy..." lol.

My advice. Yes, you should stop trying to get pregnant. It's stressing you out and keeping you from conceiving. Have fun, worry free sex, and if it happens, it happens. Don't beat yourself up over it if it doesn't happen. It'll just make you miserable.

Good luck!

Selena - posted on 09/16/2009

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dont try just dont worry about it but dont give up hope it took me 5 years to get pregnant... so dont lose faith it will happen for ya

Adrie - posted on 09/16/2009

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I mostly agree with the other moms. My husband and I tried for 10 years!! thats right....10!!! We were FINALLY going to be able to start our fertility treatments (we never got the chance to start because he was either deployed or we kept moving and had to start the testing all over again), I had one last test that had to be done so I figured I would stop stressing over it because nothing was going to happen until after the test and then probably after 6-12 months of taking the medication. I figured some time in December would be the time to start focusing on it again. Well when I went to see the doctor they told me I was 4 months pregnant (No fertility meds needed) and I ended up having my daughter that December!

I know its easier said than done but try to relax and have fun!!

Best of luck to you!

Miranda - posted on 09/16/2009

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LOL, yes I forgot about the pillow trick. I laid upside down for at least 15 min. to get pregnant with both of my children

Anna - posted on 09/16/2009

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I diffently agree with the other moms. I tryed for almost 3 years and when I gave up is when I got pregnant. Maybe it could be the stress of trying

Cindy - posted on 09/16/2009

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if u are in el paso see dr de la riva on edgemere he helped me and i was not suppose to have a baby. he is a naturalist he gave me a hormonal cream to ovalate

Jodi - posted on 09/16/2009

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I agree with most of the other Moms on here...stop trying too hard! I had the same experience, trying and trying to get pregnant...then decided it wasn't worth the hassle and got pregnant that month! Also, a few things to help raise your fertility rates, take prenatal vitamins, take cooler showers, eat extra healthy and excerise. The healthier you are physically and mentally, the easier it is to get pregnant. Also, after sex, lay in bed with a pillow under your bottom for at least 15 minutes to half an hour, it gives the sperm a fighting chance! GOOD LUCK!!!!

Rachel - posted on 09/16/2009

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Okay...it's useless to say stop thinking about it so I'd rather say...put your mind into something else.

It took us 6 years to have our first bub. There was nothing wrong with either of us according to the fertility doctors so I believe it was the "wanting" to fall pregnant that actually prevented us from falling.

It took us to move house for us to fall pregnant...I'm convinced it wasn't actually the move, but the fact my mind was on other things that helped us to fall pregnant.

Possibly go on a holiday or enrol in a course...anything to divert your mind from baby thoughts and I reckon it'll happen for you. Good luck.

Karen - posted on 09/16/2009

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We always thought we'd have three children and started 'not preventing' when my youngest was about 5. After 6 years we just forgot about it and thought we'd adopt or foster......then miracle of miracles, I'm pregnant! It's got to be in God's time! (should mention that I had a surgery before any of my pregnancies that removed my entire left ovary and 1/2 of my right! We've been blessed with three miracle babies!)

Miranda - posted on 09/16/2009

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Of course keep trying!! If this is what you want then keep going for it. Believe me a year is not that long. I know people who have tried for years and actually adopted a child and then all of a sudden got pregnant. When it is time it will happen: ) My hubby and I lost a baby between our two and it took a while for me to get pregnant the third time. I had gone on a diet and lost 30 lbs. and everyone was kidding me at work that if I wasn't careful I was going to get pregnant cause I had lost some weight. They didn't know I was actually trying :)

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We tried to conceive for about 18 months before giving it up. I got pregnant with my son the month we stopped 'trying'. I think stress can play a role in problems conceiving, so try not to stress about it too much. After a year, you could probably consult with your doctor to rule out any problems. Have you tried charting your cycles? You can use:

http://www.fertilityfriend.com

Tess - posted on 09/16/2009

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I know that I tried too hard and couldn't get pregnant. When I finally gave up, I got pregnant. Have you discussed your issues with your doctor? That might be an avenue also. Good luck!

Elyce - posted on 09/16/2009

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I had friends who had been trying for a year or so....They decided to take a break from trying and have a holiday, just relax an do something fun....They fell pregnant two months after decided to give it a break????

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