Bryanne - posted on 06/11/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )
My husband complains about everything my 14 year old son does. My son is from a previous marriage along with my other son which is 10. My husband has a 10 year old son also from a previous marriage.
My boys have chores, and I give more responsibility to the oldest. He does his chores, then he gets to hang out with friends, fish, etc. I set limits and boundaries though. I'm what you would call, a little over protective when it comes to what the boys do.
My husband thinks my son is supposed to walk a straight and narrow line and acts like a drill Sargent to him. Picks on him for every little thing. From going outside to play, from forgetting to throw a piece of paper away in his room. Then tattles on him to me like some kid on the playground. He does treat my younger son like this, but not near as bad. I do teach responsibility, respect, and i expect my kids to behave. and am very big on that. But it's almost like my husband wants to see my son in trouble or grounded. Like he pushes him so much that he will hate even living with me and want to go live with his dad. Sometimes I wonder if that's what my husband is trying to do. But it's confusing. Because sometimes I see them together like big buddies. And I just wonder if my husband is playing an act.
I love my boys, and refuse to let someone push them out the door. My kids like the joint custody arrangements their father and I share, but I don't want them hating to come home. They've always liked my husband, and he does lots of fun things with them. But the older my son gets, the harder he is on him. And he really is a good kid. He makes good grades, is very active in school functions, very outgoing, and a very loving child. Everytime I try to talk to my husband about this, it starts a huge argument that could last for days. When I punish my kids, I do appreciate him backing me up. But the drill sargent, then tattelling to me about it has got to stop.
What can I do with my husband that I love dearly to keep my kids from hating him?