Debbi - posted on 04/27/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi everyone. I need some serious advice. I am a single, self-employed, home-schooling mom of 4.5 year old twin girls. They are wonderful, smart, curious, high-spirited and sometimes a handful. I got very sick a while back and things got very rough, so in February, we moved in with their grandparents. They are not blood, I have known them since I was 15 and I am 44 now. Thing is, they have very different rules here and my girls are acting out beyond the normal 4 year old stuff. They will not listen to me and I have to be stricter with them. They are not aloud be themselves. They can't talk for more than 15 minutes without someone telling them to be quiet. They can't talk during dinner. They can't get loud while having fun and playing, even when outside. I work with horses, they are with me or on their outside activities (karate), most of the day but when we get back they want their grandparents to play with them. They really don't....no not really, they don't play with them. I am trying my hardest to explain this to my girls so they can understand. I am close to getting back on my feet but still need some time to get us our own place. I don't know what else to do, but I am yelling way more than I ever had, so they don't get in trouble by them. I should ad, my parents and their fathers (he lives 16 hours a way) parents are deceased in case anyone is wondering. They told me to come stay with them, they would help me with the girls while I got back on my feet. I had no idea it would be this complicated. I mean I am assuming that when their kids were little, it was a been seen and not heard environment. I honestly don't remember how they were as parents. They never keep them when I have to work, like they claimed they would do. It seems they don't really want them around. They re fine with me. I do nothing but work and play with my girls, I don't have a problem with that, they are my girls and my blessing but this crap, I am sorry, is more than I expected. And it's getting worse. I wasn't aware this was how it would be when we got here. I understand in anyone else's home things are different but it's almost like I have to change who my children are. I have tried to talk to them, but they just tell me how bad my girls are, how disrespectful and that I am doomed if I don't get it under control now. But the thing is, they may not be perfect but they have gotten worse since we have been here. I know part is age but I believe more is this change. I do not know how to handle this. Thanks!!