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Livia - posted on 03/04/2014 ( 13 moms have responded )

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We had our foster daughter taken away by Lutheran Social Service on Jan 3rd. We have had our daughter for 2 years. I had to call DCFS a year ago to involve them because her biological mother abandoned her. Anyway they have discriminated against us and have made up things too keep her away from us. One of the case workers told my husband to put a leash on his wife. I cant get into too much detail BUT our civil rights have been violated as well as our daughters. I believe they have her on psychotropic drugs and she is very unhappy and wants to come. They stopped our visits last week because we commented on the fact that shes lost weight and she told us she hated her school. She loved her school here. She was also involved in Ballet, Guitar Lessons and very active now she does nothing I NEED HELP I have called and tried everything I am waiting to hear back from a firm to see if they will even take my case!We had our foster daughter taken away by Lutheran Social Service on Jan 3rd. We have had our daughter for 2 years. I had to call DCFS a year ago to involve them because her biological mother abandoned her. Anyway they have discriminated against us and have made up things too keep her away from us. One of the case workers told my husband to put a leash on his wife. I cant get into too much detail BUT our civil rights have been violated as well as our daughters. I believe they have her on psychotropic drugs and she is very unhappy and wants to come. They stopped our visits last week because we commented on the fact that shes lost weight and she told us she hated her school. She loved her school here. She was also involved in Ballet, Guitar Lessons and very active now she does nothing I NEED HELP I have called and tried everything I am waiting to hear back from a firm to see if they will even take my case!We had our foster daughter taken away by Lutheran Social Service on Jan 3rd. We have had our daughter for 2 years. I had to call DCFS a year ago to involve them because her biological mother abandoned her. Anyway they have discriminated against us and have made up things too keep her away from us. One of the case workers told my husband to put a leash on his wife. I cant get into too much detail BUT our civil rights have been violated as well as our daughters. I believe they have her on psychotropic drugs and she is very unhappy and wants to come. They stopped our visits last week because we commented on the fact that shes lost weight and she told us she hated her school. She loved her school here. She was also involved in Ballet, Guitar Lessons and very active now she does nothing I NEED HELP I have called and tried everything I am waiting to hear back from a firm to see if they will even take my case! ******When I wrote this the other day first of all I was very emotional and upset. I could just erase the whole post but I am not going to. I don't know exactly what I was asking for HELP with because none of you know me. I guess I was just looking for support or someone to talk to that wasn't in my normal circle or my family. I did NOT expect to get comments that would make me feel worse. We are good parents actually we are amazing parents and NO I cant go into the full story because of the pending case. I am so glad I am NOT a judgmental person, that I have faith in humanity. That's what makes me so strong and able to help others. That's actually what got me into trouble I was helping someone and it blew up in my face and I lost our foster daughter FOR NOW. But we will be ok. Thanks for your posts Shawn,Jodi and Dove.
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Dove - posted on 03/04/2014

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My only advice is to get a lawyer to handle your case and a separate lawyer to represent the best interests of the child (whatever that may be).

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Livia - posted on 03/06/2014

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Miss As I stated in my update I was really upset and emotional when I typed that original post! I regret it. We now have a team of lawyers. We got word late Tuesday. I am so grateful. I have not slept in weeks and things have just been awful. Never in our wildest dreams did we ever think something like this could happen. But it did and it can happen to ANYONE with children. Anyway I agree my first post makes little sense :) Have a good day!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/06/2014

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Your post is difficult to read because it states the same thing continuously. If you can get a lawyer involved in your case, that may be your best option.

Livia - posted on 03/05/2014

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I guess I was looking for some morale support from moms, some compassion and understanding. Maybe I worded things wrong. Whatever the case is our daughter was taken away for unjust reasons. We have been discriminated against, we have been treated poorly and dhs thinks that they can do whatever they want with these children. She was with us for a year before I had to make the heartbreaking decision to call dcfs. At first it was fine, but the state that I live in is corrupt. If I could tell the whole story trust me I would but its still not going to change the fact that our foster daughter was taken away wrongfully and that we were going to adopt her. Our hearts are broken, BUT we have a lawyer actually a team of lawyers. Oh one other thing since they have removed her they have put her on psych meds which she does not need. I never said they just came in and removed her JUST because she was a diff ethnicity. Not every situation in foster care is exactly the same. I assure you that our house is safe, loving and secure. I also have a child with CP and Autism. Maybe you should re-read my original post and I should have been more specific in my original post, I just needed someone to talk to. Thank you!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/05/2014

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Well, you just said yourself that there is more to the story, so they didn't just step in and remove a child from your care because she's a different ethnicity than you. Removal of a child from a caring, safe situation is generally not done unless there's a reason. And, in the case of foster children, they can be removed for an allegation, pending investigation. They are technically wards of the state, and the state is responsible for them.

Jodi - posted on 03/04/2014

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Nobody assumed anything. And you have agreed that there is more to the story, so how on earth do you expect anyone here to be able to give any advice to you if you don't tell the full story in your original post? You don't then have the right to get cranky when someone doesn't give you an answer that doesn't take it all into account!

Livia - posted on 03/04/2014

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I replied to your comment earlier today and I am not sure what happened to it. First of all of course there is more to the story but I cant go all way into detailk right now. Why do you assume that ethnicity is not the case? You dont even know us or the situation that occurred.If you look up how many times race is an Issue you would be amazed. DCFS in cook county Illinois is on their 4th Director in 4 months. I had a 22 yr old show up at my house she was on drugs I had helped her in the past, fed her,took her to her doc appts. too her meetings and other things and she pays me back by making a false report against me... its just NOT fair! Then you say thats not ALL that went on !!!!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/04/2014

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I noticed that I got a notification and there was nothing here...maybe site is glitching...give it a few minutes and try again?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/04/2014

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Generally, I've always found that there is more to the story. Ethnicity would not be a key in this case, but something tells me that this is not ALL that went on prior to the removal of the child.

Livia - posted on 03/04/2014

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We did NOT abuse our daughter or neglect her in any way. We also have a disabled child (12) and a 25 yr old son who we have raised! Our daughter is half white and half black and from the beginning they have wanted to put her with a black family

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