Help!!! Will my doctor write me a note to go on early maternity leave at 36 weeks?

Rebecca - posted on 05/10/2011 ( 22 moms have responded )

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Ok...i about to be a new mom in june and i am dealing with a few painful symptoms and a pain-in-the-ass employer. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow afternoon and i wanted to ask her if she would write me a note stating that i need to take it easy and that she would recommend that i take it easy and take my maternity leave 3 weeks early. My hips are in extreme pain,the swelling in the legs and feet is horrible after standing for only an hour, i have pain just walking around, just all around miserable. I asked my boss if he would let me take my maternity leave early and he said all he could do is reduce my hours unless i bring him a note from my doctor stating that she recommends that i take it easy and go on maternity leave early. If i don't do that...he will fire me because i would be forced to call off multiple times. So do you think my doctor would help me out? Or am i going to lose my job?

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Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2013

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Im so uncomfortable at work and I'm only 7 months. I dont want to think about how bad it will be at 8 months and so on. But I want all the time off to be with my baby. Im going to try to suck it up and keep on working until I just can't work anymore. Good luck to everyone!

Callie - posted on 05/11/2011

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Do you have disability insurance? You might be able to qualify for disability until the baby comes. Which means you may still be able to collect a portion of your paycheck. Yes pregnancy qualifies as a disability if it keeps you from doing your job. It's something you should look into.

Jane - posted on 05/10/2011

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I would ask the doctor for sure. If your symptoms are that bad it could be that you are developing pre-eclampsia. Certainly if you are in that much pain it isn't helping you do your job better and certainly isn't helping your baby. I suspect your doctor will indeed write the note and sentence you to bed rest.

OTOH if your boss is such a stinker perhaps you need to find another job.

Mary - posted on 05/11/2011

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Rebecca, a few questions you might want to consider before making the decision to go out of work completely...

1) Are you planning to go back to that job after you deliver?

- If so, just remember that any time you take before delivery will reduce the amount of time you have after the baby is born. As miserable as you may be right now, I can pretty much guarantee that you won't want to go back even a second earlier than you have to. FMLA is only 12 weeks total within a rolling calendar year. If you have a normal vaginal delivery, you are medically cleared to return to work at 6 weeks. Let's say you go out now, at 36 weeks. Maybe you deliver early, but first babies are notoriously late. If you deliver at 41 weeks, you will have to return when that baby is 7 weeks old.

2) Can you just reduce your hours?

If so, I would try that option first, and see if it makes a difference. Truth is, most of us are miserable no matter what we do in those last couple of weeks. Honestly, sitting around with my feet up at the end wasn't much better - it just meant I was uncomfortable and bored as hell!

I'm extremely sympathetic to where you are at. I was 38 years old, and working FT nights as an L&D nurse when I had my daughter. It was a pretty physically demanding job, and there was no option for "light" duty or to stay off my feet. Those last few weeks sucked. However, I didn't want to go out early if I could avoid it, since I didn't want to lose time with her after she was born. As I said, I was going to be miserable no matter where I was - I figured I was at least getting paid this way, and honestly, being busy at work kept me from dwelling to much on my discomforts. I worked up until three nights before I had her, and I'm glad I did. Unless you have some type of issue outside of the normal aches and pains of late pregnancy, you really need to think it through before deciding to go out early.

Brooke - posted on 05/11/2011

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I didn't think you were entitled to maternity leave at all if you havn't worked with the same employer for 12 months.. I know for me I was able to go on leave any time after 34 weeks but I have been there for over a year.. im 35 weeks and jus finishing my last week..

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Ceren - posted on 05/13/2011

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Your doctor will definately write you a note, I told my doctor that i felt like i was asking him to many questions and for too many things as far as paperwork goes, his answer was that any doctor will do anything to make a pregnant woman comfortable, that is what is important you and your baby... Just ask your doctor and im SURE she will be more than happy to write you that note... Good luck... Hope you feel better...

Jodi - posted on 05/12/2011

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No, in Australia you're not entitled unless you've been with them for 12 months. That's what i meant :D

Jodi - posted on 05/11/2011

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Brooke, I am pretty sure they are REQUIRED to let you leave at 34 weeks. But not if you haven't been working there for 12 months.....

Brooke - posted on 05/11/2011

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in Aus most places let you take your maternity leave between 34 and 36 weeks.. it sucks its not like that for you!

Lisa - posted on 05/10/2011

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Most doctors will if you explain your situation. Mine did with the first two and with the third he asked if I wanted a note but I told him no that time.
I would explain how you feel and that the pain is worse while you are at work. Also explain what your boss has told you that you've asked for time off and told you would get fired unless you had a doctor's note.
My doctor was fine with it because he wanted me to be mentally and physically prepared for labor, delivery, and becoming a new mother and if that meant a couple weeks off to put my feet up...

Amanda - posted on 05/10/2011

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I don't see why not. If you don't feel able to continue, your doctor should honor that and give you a note

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Rebecca I am sure she will hav no problem giving you a note especially since you are so far along. I think it will all work out in favor. Stay positive.

Rebecca - posted on 05/10/2011

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I'm so worried...I really hope it all goes smoothly. My doctor is pretty cool,she has 3 kids already and is

currently pregnant. When I asked for a note so I could sit down at work she gave it to me...no questions asked. So im going to stay positive...I really hope she permits me to stay at home with all this pain im in.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2011

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Well, actually, you could lose your job in Australia too. Our laws also do not obligate ANY employer to keep open a job for someone to have a baby if they haven't worked there for 12 months. So regardless of whether you leave now or leave later to have the baby, your employer isn't obligated to keep your job open for you. I can understand that. There has to be a limit.

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Hmmm... That stinks. Unfortunately there may be a chance you could lose your job and it has nothing to do with you personally. It has to do with how f*cked up this country is with its laws. If you are well liked at your job and you did your job well they may look passed the laws in place especially if they can afford to lose you for a few months. As soon as you get your note you definately need to have a sit down with your boss and express to him how much you love your job and that you would love to have the opportunity to come right back after the baby is born and you get the ok from your doc to return to work. Even if you don't really love your job make your boss think that he needs you back and not the other way around. What ever the future brings good luck to you. Have a safe delivery and congrats!

Katherine - posted on 05/10/2011

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I'm going to say that yes your doctor will give you the note. Mine did. I had the same problem. Very swollen, horrible pain......my doctor actually asked me when I wanted to go on leave and that was at 34 weeks because of it.

Rebecca - posted on 05/10/2011

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My store is a chain,and i don't qualify for FMLA or paid maternity leave because i have been employed there for less than a year.

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Here is the link to the US dept of labor regarding FMLA.

http://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/

Is the store you work at a chain? If it is then the company might qualify for it's employees to get FMLA because it has more than 50 people employed there but I am not 100% certain. Also read your company handbook very carefully. Most likely it follows local and federal laws but compare it to the gov't link i gave you. Good luck hon I hope it all works out for you.

Rebecca - posted on 05/10/2011

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To answer your question,Heather, yes...i am in the US and there is less than 50 people employed at my store. I am very confused on what to do...I am really hoping that I get my note tomorrow,give it to my boss and be on the couch with my bowl of fruit and my iced tea and water till my due date...lol.

Jennifer - posted on 05/10/2011

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As long as you have a sympathetic doctor, it shouldn't be a problem. If not, check the laws in your state (if you are in the States), because I think most are required to give you 12 consecutive weeks with no loss of job or positition and that is 12 weeks maternity/postpartum combined, and you can choose when to start it. My docs were butt heads, when it came to maternity leave. I asked just so my employer could have it on record, but they wouldn't do it. I didn't sit at a desk all day either. I was a nursing assistant in a nursing home lifting 200+ lb people all day, and they didn't see the need for me to stop early. Thankfully my employer was much more understanding, and let me stop early with my 1st and 3rd. Funny side note: I decided not to stop early with my 2nd, and my water actually broke while I was lifting a person. I was 38 weeks 5 days, so all was good. I was actually 5cm by the time I made it to the hosp, and hadn't felt a thing, I guess from all the strenuous work I had been doing.

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Jodi I totally agree with you. It is really messed up here. Women are still looked upon to stay home and care for the kids and household yet there is almost no possible way to get by on just one income. There are laws that protect your job while out on maternity leave but you must work at a place that employs 50+ people and you only get 12 weeks unpaid leave. That's pretty much it.

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2011

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Your laws in the US need some SERIOUS overhaul. They are disgraceful. This situation should never even be necessary. I am so sorry you are having this stress.

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Are you in the U.S.? And if you are is there more than 50 people employed at your work place?

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