Help with 5-yo separation anxiety at drop-off!

Lydia - posted on 09/14/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 5-yr old son has separation anxiety EVERYDAY I drop him off at Kindergarten/daycare. It has been 2.5 wks since this new change, but he had been doing this even prior to starting Kindergarten when I previously dropped him off at preschool. He usually either hangs onto me or blocks my way from leaving. I always have to have a "helper" pry him off of me, crying and having a fit. I try to leave as quickly as possible, but I ALWAYS need help getting him separated from me. A reward at the end of the day and promising that I will pick him up later never works. I'm at a loss as to what I can do to make the transition at drop-off easier on both of us. It's frustrating and upsetting starting the day off this way! Any helpful advice is appreciated!

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Lydia - posted on 09/14/2012

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I think he only cries for like 5 minutes after we leave. His teacher pulled us aside today and was concerned because when she asks him to interact with his classmates (so they can ask each other questions) he sits there quiet. When he's with his friends that he grew up in daycare/preschool with, he's outgoing. But in a new environment he gets super shy and keeps to himself. I'm just concerned that he's too shy and thus isn't having fun in school. :( Thanks for your advice about the "secret" gift. I will try that!

Mw - posted on 09/14/2012

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How does he act after you leave? If he is OK soon after you leave, then I don't think you need to be concerned. When you are at home and ask him about daycare/preschool, does he have positive things to say about it?



We had bad dropoffs for a while (though our son was younger); one trick we used was giving him a 'secret' present in his pocket. We told him that if he could only pull it out of his pocket if he felt sad, and it would remind him of how much we love him. the presents were super cheap trinkets we bought from the toystore (nothing at all special). . . but at pickups he would usually beam about the 'secret' present.

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