Katie - posted on 05/07/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
Hi I am one of the many faces of adultery that has decided to dig in, put up a fight against the devil and work on our marriage. I am working on healing myself and getting my confidence back. I of course eat my emotions but I am trying to work on that too. He was emotionally cheating on me for three years then it turned physical last year. This ugly a## unhappily married chick would drive for two hours to come and have sex with my husband while I would be at work wt night as a post-partum doula, with our two girls sleeping in there rooms. REALLY!!!!??? Anyway we went through some counseling with our pastor, we halfway did the love dare then we stopped working on us because life got in the way. But now he has a BFF who is married to a navy man and they live in Va. Beach with four kids. She is totally in love with her husband and he loves her too. After the affair ended we had like two months of just us then he friended this woman. He is constantly on the phone, texting, skyping etc. Put it this way he has been at truck driving school for the past three weeks and according to the phone records communication with her over 2000 minutes and me barely 50. He comes back on Mothers Day and I have no idea how to deal with him or what to do. We had a fight his first week there because I went to check out his FB and he changed the pass word to as he says do a trust test on me. UGH!! Since then he has asked me not to text or call him while he is in school and yet the texting, calling between them is practically 24/7. I need some advice please. I hope to start counseling this wee, we do not have insurance so it's coming out of pocket. Now with this new trucking job he will be gone for weeks at a time. How do I make sure I send him away with the confidence that everything will be ok and that on the road he will not betray me again?