Help with discipline for 18 months old

Ola - posted on 10/07/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hello all,



I can tell from now that my baby is a very stubborn baby. Recently I have been trying to introduce the word "please" to her. So I ask her to say please when asking for anything, but she just refuses it! She repeats every thing I say except the word " please". She is also touching the radiator and I take her away and say "don't touch, please" This is dangerous" so on... but she keeps doing it and when I pull her away she kicks and cries like mad although she is usually a very happy baby.



Am I being rough like this introducing these early or should she be more receptive now so i can start training her?



Any advice/ideas/past experience?

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Bobbie - posted on 10/07/2012

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Lola,

The important thing you can do for your relationship with your baby is to keep trying different things until something works. If she isn't responding well to you saying "don't touch, please" then change your words or approach all together. I would suggest that you demonstrate through mime that it can hurt her the first time she approaches. Walk over and say, "ouch, burns me!" and move her away. When she next walks to it say "ouch, don't touch". She should get that message more clearly that this isn't a control battle but rather a concern for her safety.

Here is the thing too. Most stubborn children get that trait past to them from a parent. So you have a 50-50 chance of being that parent :) What do you feel when you try to correct her and she won't listen? You may be already butting heads with her because you two are alike.

don't let her personality traits give you the wrong impression either. She may not be stubborn at all but smart enough to pick up on your tone when you want to force an issue, or word from her. She could be backing away from the pressure and stress she feels from you.

Your are just as important to her and she is to you. She needs you to understand her as much as you need her to understand you.

Amy - posted on 10/07/2012

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Keep doing what you're doing. My daughter wasn't talking at 18 months but we started teaching her signs and that was one of the first one we taught her. I don't think I ever refused her something because she didn't say please but I gently reminded her to say it when she forgot. She's now 2 1/2 and talking, she always asks for stuff now but doesn't say please so I've actually have started saying no, she's figured out why I say no and she will follow up very quickly with a please.



She's also exploring her surroundings so the fact that the radiator is off limits makes it that much more appealing for her. Just keep reminding her that it gets hot and she'll get hurt and then keep pulling her away from it. She'll probably keep wanting to go back but no matter how much she kicks and screams you can't give in. I always found distraction worked best so I would get my kids playing a game or coloring so they would forget about it for awhile.

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