Sammie - posted on 08/31/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )
Hi, I am new to Circle of Moms and I am seeking advice. I want to apologize if this gets a little long, but I want to provide detail so that you understand what I've got going on here. So I am a stay at home mom and my daughter is 22 months old. I have been doing in home childcare for a year now. Over the course of the year I have provided care for 3 families; the first for about 4 months, the second is still in my care, and the third is also still in my care.
The first family was for a school aged child who was 9. For privacy's sake I will not be using the childrens' real names. We will call this boy Franklin. I only ever met Franklin's mother in person about 3 times. She would drop him off outside and he would come knocking on his own. His mother's boyfriend would come pick him up and pay me. The problem with this family is that the mother would either cancel 5 minutes before she was supposed to drop Franklin off, or not give me notice at all and never bring him. This was a common occurrence. After having this happen on Christmas Eve and New Years' Eve I decided it was time to part ways.
Child number 2, Lee, has been in my care since the beginning of my in home childcare. He is only 6 months older than my daughter, so they get along as well as 2 toddlers can. His mother pays me on time and we get along great. She works as a waitress and sometimes comes for Lee a little later than expected, but I understand that and she lets me know if it is going to be much later. I have no problem with this family. They will be moving come springtime and I will no longer be caring for Lee as they are moving an hour away.
Now here's my issue. The third family's child, Bradley, is 2 months younger than my little girl.I have been watching him for about 7-8 months and he is still in my care currently. all 3 toddlers play fine most of the time, and when they aren't making my house look like a tornado swept through, I generally have no issues with them. His mother is very nice and we have extremely similar personalities. She used to pay me great, and pay a little in advance usually. But as of the past 4 months or so she hasn't been paying me regularly. Now I would like to say,my rates are not expensive! I only charge $3/hour and that includes meals and snacks. So price is not the issue. She has only been giving me $100 every 2 weeks when, on average, I care for Bradley about 8-9 hours M-F every week. She knows she owes me money but always beats around the bush or seems to completely ignore the fact. I feel that it is partially my fault for letting her get too comfortable with me. But that is no excuse for her to under pay me. For example, today she owed me $363 and she gave me $100 when she picked up Bradley. She seems to think that is an adequate amount and gave no second thought. As I said, she has become quite comfortable with me, so I know she has money to spend. She is always buying Bradley expensive shoes and getting Starbucks every day, among other things. And she is always late for pickups and dropoffs, which I cannot stand.
Other than the issue with Bradley's mother, I feel i am neglecting my daughter time and, please don't judge me and say I'm a horrible person, but I am just tired of having my house torn apart day after day, things getting broken, and my carpet destroyed beyond repair. I used to wake up happy to be able to stay at home with my baby and care for others so she could have little playmates while also making money. But I am beginning to resent the thought of getting up and doing this, not because I hate the children, but because I would like to provide childcare in a different setting, like a daycare center. Anywhere but my personal home really.
I'll wrap this up now. I would like to stop my in home childcare come spring, when Lee's family moves. But Bradley's mother has recently told me that she loves me caring for her son so much and she wants me to continue for years to come, even after he starts school.
Please help me out. I need to be paid regularly and if Bradley's mother cannot pay me I will stop caring for him until the past due is paid. I don't know how to go about any of this. Any advice is appreciated!