Yesenia - posted on 07/23/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )
Some of you have read my posts about my relationship problems and have offered me great advice which finally gave me the strength to leave that unhealthy relationship. He is now my ex but we share two daughters and he has been been making my life as miserable as possible to were the stress is too much. I was letting him see the girls because he said he wanted to see them every other weekend with no problems from me but he then would have the girls for that single day and spend the entire day calling me to see what I was doing and I did not want to talk to him, so that made him angry. He would argue with me and say crazy things in front of the girls every single time I picked them up and drop them off. After that it got to be too much so I had to get a family member to go and pick them up n drop them off. The insults and arguments did not stop. One day at our local dollar store he found me and my daughter and walked into the store and in front of everyone asked me why I wouldn't answer the phone and got in my face and threatened to kill me saying this in front of my daughter. I went and got an order of protection the next day who the judge gave for me and the girls because he did not trust him. Two times after that I made the mistake of allowing the oldest daughter to get dropped off by a family member to see him for the day, on the second time I was out of town and he kept calling me but I wouldn't answer him so he left me a message threatenening to take her to california and that I would never see her again. I had my parents go find him and they did, he told my parents that he was on his way to drop her back off. I think that he said that just to upset me but I haven't allowed anymore converstations or visits with him ever since then even though he continues to call and text me. I don't reply. I have called the cops but they told me that if they go and talk to him that it will make things worst which may be possible. What I am asking for is advice on how to handle my daughter through all this, her behavior has changed dramatically and she seems to think i am keeping her from him out of spite which i am not because i am willing to endure the insults from him as long as shes happy but i can not trust him with her not taking her. I don't know what to do. I am trying to go to court but have trouble with the paperwork. I am working on this but what am I suppose to do about my daughter's behavior. I know this is going to scar her for life.