F - posted on 04/09/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Help, any suggestions would be appreciated. My husband and I have been together for 9 years now, with he being the non-custodial parent of two, now teenaged boys. Recently , the other parent dropped them off for us to finish parenting. We have tried to give them some structure, which they do not have, because the other parent worked nights and the kids were left unattended most of the time. We tried to get custody many times in the past , but they refused the request. Well now that the kids are hard,disrespectiful,bitter,misdirected, confused and refuse to respect authority we got a call stating that they had no where else to go . My husband has longed for his kids always, so I am trying to support him, but daily there are situations in our home. They go out of their way to intentally cause problems between my husband I. One of them left to go find his mother, so we have only one of them still living with us. I have a teendaughter from my first marraige who lives with us and stays in her room to avoid listening to the conflict.
My question is how do I get this one kid to respect the home,and the family. I can see that it bothers my husband that the child is always in some type of punishment setting. I am sick of it as well. Is it normal for boys to be so ungreatful even when their current situation is so much more sheltering than their past?