Mellody - posted on 01/17/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
Help!! what to do when children refuse to listen/ do as they are asked, be polite/ show respect, etc.
my little girl just turned 3. Her attitude is unbelievable. Avery has always seemed to have a little bit of attitude,but lately she has been rude to everyone and seems to be focusing the bulk of it on her daddy.
she doesnt want to listen and says so outright. she will refuse to do things she would normally do without an argument, like brushing teeth & eating meals, refusal or fights to get dressed.etc.
Its getting to a point where we cant ask her simple questions without her getting upset. My husband will say 'good morning, sweetie' and she says 'NO!', or ignores him. most times she has less attitude with me, but only on the days when i'm not "the bad guy" as well/often. she's good for the day if left to her own devices, but when asked to do something, or told not to do something, and doesnt want to, she usually gets rude, or ignores us. we have tried many things in getting her to listen, but usually they only work for short time and then seem to lose effect.
When we started to take her toys away when bad, then give them back as reward for good behavior it seemed to work really well. She seemed to be more affected by loosing her things then any other method we had tried, but just the other day we asked her before taking away her toy 'do you want us to take away your toys?' she said 'take em!' we try time outs but she fights it, stiffens up, or lashes about, screams untill shes red and coughing ( and somtimes drooling)
Basically her attitude is going from what seemed average for a 2 1/2 - 3 yr old, to completly defiant. I have noticed it has gotten worse since i have gone back to work, i think the major issue is that she misses me and doesnt get 1-on-1 time with me like she use to. but i know i cant alow this to stop me from working. we are thinking/ hoping things will get better once she is in daycare (more interaction/ stimulation then with just a babysitter) but are currently still looking.
We love our little girl so much & it hurts to have her push us away. I just want to have my happy girl back. Has anyone delt with this similar situation? what did/ would you do?