Kasandra - posted on 04/29/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
I am needing some help... I gave birth to a beautiful, perfect little boy on April 4th 2012... We named him Jace William weighing at 7lbs 6oz 19 inches long and healthy as can be. From the beginning my daughter and her brother had a bond like I have never seen before.. it was very clear that they had an unconditional bond. Jace's father and I split up in September of 2012, and shared equal custody of Jace. Rotating weeks. Jace passed away in his sleep at his fathers house early in the morning on October 25th 2012. I found out around 1 pm by getting a phone call from the police department, asking me to come to the station... When they told me my son had passed I was mortified... Anyway, on October 26th I had Madi's (my daughter) dad bring Madi over to my moms house so that we could sit down with her... When she walked in the door she looked around for her baby brother...(as she always does when she comes back to my house..) she says "where is Jace" nobody said anything and my eyes filled with tears.. She says "what's wrong? where is my baby brother?" she was frantic... my mom tells her to sit down in my lap and talk with us.. At this time Madi is already crying.... she knows something is wrong.. My mom explained that Jace was an angel in Heaven now and he was going to watch over him, just like she watched over him when he was here... She understood death because we had lost my grandma the previous year and she and her were pretty close.
Anyway, its been 6 months since we lost Jace and Madi keeps his memory alive constantly... She says that he visits her in her dreams every night... She cries all the time and says that she misses him so much... she has also started having nightmares. I feel so helpless when it comes to comforting my daughter, cuz i hurt so much as well. Her behavior is awful all the time, she doesn't listen, her attitude is ridiculous, and i dont know what to do.... Does anyone have any kind of advice to help my baby girl??
P.S. Jace's dad and I are back together and have been since November 2012.. he has a hard time coping, or even talking about our son =[