Helping my son fall asleep

Tiffany - posted on 07/12/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I don't want to continue the bad habit of letting him fall asleep at the bottle, rocking him to sleep or patting his back, every night in order for him to go to sleep.
He's 4 months old. Any advice? Thanks :)


Wendy - posted on 07/12/2011




I was in the same boat with my eldest son at that age - I found it really hard, I had to change his entire routine of an evening. I weaned him onto solids quite early (he was 8 weeks old) so this part may or may not apply to you! I would give him his evening meal folloed by his bottle then about an hour later I would bathe him snuggle him up all nice in his crib then leave his music projector on and then leave the room - the first night he screamed for 45 minutes i was checking him every 10 minutes but I knew I couldn't give in because if I did then he'd never do it. The 2nd night he screamed for half an hour by the fourth night he only cried for 5 minutes as he realised that it would get him nowhere. Now he is 18months and asks to go to bed! It was horrible leaving him to scream but my mum was very supportive and kept reassuring me that he would be fine and just to check on him every 10 minutes until he stopped crying! I have to say though I haven't done the same with my youngest son he is 6 months old and falls asleep on the sofa every night then i put him up to bed - it's a habit i need to break and soon! Hope this helps, other than that with my daughter i'd put her to bed and read to her - I did this from when she was about 6 weeks old and she never screamed once it's great way of getting into practice for calming down at bedtime and brilliant if you don't have any other children to tend to I wish I could've used this method on both my sons but i just don't have the time!!!


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Elfrieda - posted on 07/12/2011




I was very worried when my son was very young about letting him develop bad habits. I think when I have another baby I won't worry about it so much. It's good to keep it in mind, but I think I'll have a goal in mind (go to sleep by himself by the time he's 1) and in the meantime do what's easy for baby and mama. It's amazing how quickly a baby who is 9 - 12 months can learn a new habit or routine. (for my son it takes a week maximum, and now that he's older often I do something once and he expects it to happen every time)

I think if it isn't too hard on you or takes too long, just do what works to get him to sleep and worry about training him later.

Tiffany - posted on 07/12/2011




I was told (and I'm learning quickly my sources are not very reliable) that if you get into this cycle that I am in, that it will stick until he is older. I don't want that to be the case.
There's been a couple times that he will just fall asleep from over exhaustion but that's only like 2-3 times

Kellie - posted on 07/12/2011




Why is it a bad Habit? There is NOTHING wrong with snuggling with your baby while they drift off to sleep.

Developmentally this is what they need. To be held, to be loved, to be safe and secure in Mummy's arms. It is OK for you to hold your baby for crying out loud!

He will stop needing you so much sooner than you will be ready for, enjoy this time while you have it. Babies are smart, he will *wean* himself of needing to go to sleep feeding and cuddling with you on his own.

My advice is to wait until he is ready or I can pretty much guarantee he will fight you every step of the way. I don't believe in CIO and definitely not in the way Wendy describes it.

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