helpless and hearbroken mama

Nicole - posted on 07/07/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Trying find somebody to help. Me get my 11yr son from sand diego ca. Immediately his father hasn't sent him. Home and refuses to so don't have to pay child support ..he has put his hands on him and partys allvthe time with his girlfriend and they fight alll the time and my baby keeps telling my other kids he wants come home scared of his dad ..I had a ticket already for him and his dad wouldn't send him andvthe ticket was not transferable much more to write but looking for anybody that can help financially or legally thank you so much ..

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Ev - posted on 07/08/2014

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I will add something here at this point. I have a friend who has full legal custody of her children. Her oldest is gone on his own now but his younger sibs are still at home. One year at Christmas break, their father decided he wanted to get the kids and take him to his place two hours away. That was fine. What my friend did not know at the time was that he planned to take her kids and his other two children from a second marriage/divorce out of state without her consent on the kids he shared with her. They ended up in Florida. Dad planned things just so the kids did not have access to getting a phone so they could call mom. In her custody and visitation orders, he had to file with the court his intent on a trip outside the area they lived in (he resides in one state just over the border so that is not the issue, it was taking a vacation out of general area that they and their mom lived and their dad lived. He was only allowed to take him to his home over the state line as per the orders). He was to provide her and court an itinerary of their trip and phone numbers of where they were staying etc. He did none of that and took them anyway. I got a call from her the day they were to be home and he had told her that they would be late. 12 hours late. She was so upset and wondering if she should call the cops and get him for going against orders. I told her to do it, that I would if in her shoes. The kids did come home safely, later than they were to be home. Weather played a role in the plane flights where they were stuck. She had decided to let it go this time but she told him next time he better make sure she knew of any trips he planed to take the kids or she would call the cops. She wanted to not have the kids see their dad get arrested. So, make your call on this.

Dove - posted on 07/08/2014

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As Evelyn and Shawnn have mentioned... if you have court ordered custody and visitation details... call the police w/ the order in hand and they will go and get your child (well, contacting the police where he is first... obviously your local police won't pick him up.. lol) and send him on the plane. If you DON'T have that court order... all you can do is get a lawyer and take it to court.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/08/2014

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If you have court ordered residential custody, and the non custodial parent is violating that court order, you can prosecute that. Take your court orders to the authorities, and have them get your son.

If you do not have court ordered custody, then I'd recommend getting that taken care of.

Ev - posted on 07/07/2014

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If you have full custody and he is not complying with sending your son back, then go to the authorities and file kidnapping charges if his visitation is done for the time being.

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