S. - posted on 01/03/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
I really need your advice on something, I'll try to keep it as simple as possible.
When I was 16 I got with a guy 12 years older then me, I got brought up poorly and moved out of home and 15 so I was probably looking for something I was lacking.
Anyway this guy was from out of town he had one son who lived in my town and 3 other boys who didn't. although I never understood how he could leave them I was young and stupid and believed what he told me. A year on the youngest son got taken away from the mother and we started to fight to gain custardy when out of the blue he dropped the case and put him up for adoption, making excuses that I never liked but excepted. When I was 19 I had my daughter then left him when I woke up to his ways at 21, a few years later he became dangerous to my daughter so I stopped his contact, he fled and I have no idea where he his. My daughters 13 now and I've always told her she has another family.
He gave me limited details of his family and their names are very common but I think I've found one of the son's on fb ( now a adult) I am only going by a name and the fact he looks like him, I'd like my daughter to have the rights to know her other family but I don't know if I have the rights to go interfering in a family that don't even know anything about my daughter, ideally I'd like to get in contact with the uncle but I can't find him, I think the grandparents are now dead.
Do I just leave it alone or do I ask if he is who I think he his? What do you guys think?