Here's to the Ring and til death do you part....

Katie - posted on 09/18/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My ex-Step mother has my grandmother's (who has passed away) wedding ring. My Ex-Step mother had walked out on my dad after 16 years of marriage to be with another man and to enjoy her mid life crisis... I have just recently politely asked her for my grandma's ring back but she says when she passes I can have it.... I am not sure what to do now as I am heart broken and have a feeling she will hock the ring. I remember as a little girl always admiring my grandmother's ring and her telling me one day it would be mine. Grandma and Grandpa were married until death did them part. I feel that because my past step mother failed her vowes to my father she shouldn't be able to keep my grandma's ring....

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Katie - posted on 09/18/2015

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That gift came with a promise to love honor and cherish her son until death do them part.... Guess I am just bitter and want more honor in our family heirlooms... A verbal promise/agreement means just as much to me as a piece of paper does. Guess I am just different.... Thank you for your imput though. I need to see another side other than my own thoughts. Serenity Prayer will get me over this heart ache.

Dove - posted on 09/18/2015

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Sarah's last paragraph says it all... the ring was a gift and unless there are legal documents stating stipulations... it is hers to do what she wants with regardless of any verbal agreements.

Sarah - posted on 09/18/2015

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We have a sort of rule in our family. All of the diamonds and precious jewelry goes to the girls only. The boys could give a treasured heirloom to a girl and she could choose to pawn it, keep it or whatever if the relationship fails. Now, we have a unique family history with my hubby's ancestors fleeing the Ukraine in 1912. They were Jewish furriers, and had warning of their village being overthrown (very Fiddler on the Roof) The jewelry I have received from my hubby was purchased for me, until our 20th anniversary. I received a beautiful diamond ring (that came to the US sewn into a little girls coat) as part of the family inheritance. To keel treasures in the family, give them to the girls.
Sadly a ring is a gift and once married the gift is hers to keep. In the event of and ended engagement most potential brides give the ring back. Unless a prenup was signed you are going to have to wait and see. Whatever the outcome, ask you Step mother to put it in writing that the ring comes to you.

Katie - posted on 09/18/2015

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I am talking to my dad and he is going to talk to her... but the ring itself was given to him to give to her by my grandma with the promise that she would love, honor and cherish him as he did her.... A family heirloom shouldn't be kept by someone who broke their vows and left not only her husband but her kids as well so she could drink and party and be free of responsibility.... She has already pawned my dads ring long ago who is to say she won't with this one...

Dove - posted on 09/18/2015

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If your father gave it to her... it's up to him to get it back or not. If you politely asked for it back and she said no... there is nothing more for you to do unless you want to try talking to your father.

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