Herpes delivery

Yve - posted on 12/27/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I was diagnosed with herpes in 2007. And now I am pregnant with my first baby. I'm only 22 weeks but I am debating whether or not I want to give birth vaginally or by c section. I want to give birth vaginally but I'm nervous. I know that I will be given mess ahead of time to prevent outbreaks but what if I am in that 1-3% of women that have outbreaks. Another thing is that what will happen in the delivery room? Will it be shouted from the roof top by nurses who come in and check for any outbreaks? My fiancée is still very uncomfortable with the idea of me having herpes and for it to be said out loud will make him angry. My fear is that he will walk out and not be there for the birth of our daughter. And I will deliver my child alone. Do you think there is a way for the nurses to be discreet about checking for an outbreak? Like not saying anything at all and just checking for what they need to check on? I'm sure my mother and his mother will be in the room and neither of them know about my herpes.

I just want my baby to be safe and not to broadcast my business to "the world"

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Lisa - posted on 12/29/2015

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Have a C-section and be sure your child is well. The goal is a safe healthy delivery. I had two c-sections and now two healthy kids. You can do it!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015

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In the long run, it doesn't matter HOW you deliver the baby, and if that is all they are concerned about, they have issues. Not you love. Don't let their hangups determine how you want to live your life.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015

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If you feel uncomfortable confronting them, you can shut down the conversation immediately by saying "I am going to follow my doctors medical and professional recommendations to deliver my baby."

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015

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His family has NO say in how you deliver the baby. It is quite frankly none of their business. Your vagina should not be the topic of discussion. In fact, when they ask, you should say keep your opinions off my vagina. Unbelievable. Don't let others dictate the safest way for your baby to be brought into this world. In the long run, babies health is the ONLY thing that matters. It turns my stomach that what they want effects you so much. It is none of their damned business.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015

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Oh, also no nurse or doctor worth their salt would broadcast such personal information. HIPPA guidelines also protect you, and keep your medical information confidential.

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Yve - posted on 12/27/2015

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Your advice is priceless. You're right. The decision to deliver naturally or c section is mine only to make for the health of my baby.

Yve - posted on 12/27/2015

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You're right. Just shut it down. My vagina isn't their business. Their healthy grand daughter is. That's all that matters.

Yve - posted on 12/27/2015

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Little Miss- thank you for your honesty. You're right on both counts. It's just that his family is big on natural birth I think my family would be too. I just want my baby to be healthy. And not have my business blown up in front of "the world" to hear.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/27/2015

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First of all, if your fiance cannot be there for YOU and the BABY and is worried about himself while you are giving birth, he needs to not be there.

Secondly, you really need to discuss this with your doctor. If you are having an outbreak, the safest thing is for baby to be delivered via c section. I have had a c section and a vbac. If I had herpes, I honestly wouldn't chance giving birth vaginally, but that is just me. It really depends on so much. Pregnancy can be stressful (and it sounds like you are already stressed out and without strong support from your fiance) and can cause break outs. Make the best decision you can pertaining to the health of your baby.

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