Hey guys please don't judge...I'm a 17yr old solo mum of 14 month old twin girls and I think I might be pregnant again, I'm sure I could handle it but just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation etc? Thanks
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Dove - posted on 01/16/2013
If you're 17, with twins, and single.... I suppose stating that sex probably isn't the smartest idea would also be seen as rude and judgmental.
Can't say I've ever been in THAT position, but I am a (much older) single mom of 3. I quit having sex when I quit being married though cuz there is NO WAY I would risk having another child at this point... ever.
Do you have a job? High school diploma? Is the father of your twins involved? On child support? Is the father of this 'possible' baby involved?
If you are struggling with two and you ARE pregnant... I would seriously think about adoption. Perhaps an open adoption, so you could still get pictures and updates about your child. Good luck!
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 01/16/2013
Maitreya, not judging here, but you're 17, you have 2 babies, already, why are you not either using protection, or not having sex? Especially if you conceive that easily? It's a pretty straightforward solution.
I'm sure that there are other women have been in the same situation. And they'll tell you that it's not easy at any age. Like Little miss said, 17 or 37, it ain't gonna be easy, girl.
Do you HAVE a support system? Is the twins father in the picture? Is the potential father of this baby? (if they're different)
I'll put it a little differently than Little Miss...If you end up not being pregnant this time, good! Until you are ready for more babies, stop having sex! You, my girl are WAY to fertile! Actually, I'd have loved that when trying to conceive...it took me 7 years or so with the first. But, seriously, you're one of those women that could probably get pregnant by looking at your man crosseyed, so it's best to abstain!
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 01/17/2013
Listen, actually my simple statement "it will be hard" was just the simple truth. I have no idea what your situation is because you did not elaborate. You did not tell us if you are still living with your parents. Or if you are with the father of the twins, and he is helping. Or if this is a different father. If you are receiving any support. Finishing high school. Going to college. If you have a job. Life plans changed when you got pregnant with twins. It will change more with a 3rd child. It will be hard. Can you do it? I don't know you. But where there is a will there is a way. Do you want to abort? I find that as a shitty way to solve your problems, but your body your choice. Could you give your child up for adoption? I wouldn't be able to....for me that would be like choosing my first 2 over the third. So. All that being said, what kind of support are you looking for?
No need to be rude mate. Thanks for commenting but do you really think I'm that stupid? With my twins, I was on the pill, their father and I used protection and I took the morning after pill...yet I STILL fell pregnant. Go figure? No need to be rude, I simply asked a question because if I am I need support, have some respect and consideration.
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