Hey, Im in Canada. We just went to court for my ex to get access of our 8 year old girl but.......

Nicole - posted on 08/02/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So let me start out by giving you some background.
My ex and I were together for 10 years before we had our daughter.
We got along fine except for his drinking and drug use.
So when I got pregnant we moved away from the city because he said he wanted to do better.
But he didn't.
Things got worse.
Since I had our daughter he found new losers to do drugs with and he drinks everyday.
He never spent anytime with her at all.
She tells my family of a time i went to the gym with my friend and he was suppose to be watching her. His friend came to get him and he told her to go over to the neighbors house.
This is fine with most kids but our daughter is not like other kids. She loves being with me. We do everything together and I have always worked at home since her birth so I can raise her. Anyways, I can home to see him in his friends car and her on the driveway crying. All he could say was "I told you I needed to leave like now". I wanted to smack him so hard in the head.
Well we went to court yesterday. We both got duty councilor. Mine sided with him in his request of having our daughter for 7 hours every saturday.
My problem is she's never been with him for more than 2 hours and he has a really nasty temper. He lives 3 cities away from me and doesn't drive legal.
Both him and his friends drink and drive and are always high.
I feel like the duty councilor I had forced me to sign consent for him to have 7 hours with our daughter because he said the judge will agree with my ex and requesting supervised visits like it was before won't work cause he's (my ex) not violent.
Its so terrible when you have nothing and have to get free help because its not any help at all. Duty councilors most anyways just do whatever they can to get you out of court even if they lie to you.
My stomach is twisted in knots now.
My ex wants to get back at me and this is the only way he can.
Through our daughter.
What are they going to do for 7 hours?
He can't come to my house or my families cause neither of us want him in our homes.

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Dove - posted on 08/02/2014

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TAKE pictures of the drug use. You are about to have to let your daughter be alone w/ this drug abuser and you are concerned about HIS privacy?! Hell no....

Nicole - posted on 08/02/2014

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I do have proof which was submitted but like I stated before in my post the duty councilor didn't really care. He basically said that the judge will go on what he thinks.
i had a text message he sent me saying that he was going to get f**ked up because our daughter didn't want to talk him. Also he submitted his drug and possession charges he had. A few years back.
I don't have proof of him driving without a license or snorting cocaine, or drinking but Ive seen him do it several times.
Plus the only way I could get hard evidence is if I took pictures of him doing it which I didn't cause it would have been infringement of his privacy.
I also have a letter from his lawyer in 2011 asking for money for his drug charge.
And yes Im planning to petition the court as soon as I can.

Ev - posted on 08/02/2014

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If you were so worried about him having access to your daughter, why did you not try to get proof of his drug use, alcohol use and driving record. Those would have gone a long way to surpervised visits. And you could petition the court and let them know you felt that you did not get proper representation from your own councilor.
As for what they will do for 7 hours...that is up to him.

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