Nicole - posted on 08/02/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )
So let me start out by giving you some background.
My ex and I were together for 10 years before we had our daughter.
We got along fine except for his drinking and drug use.
So when I got pregnant we moved away from the city because he said he wanted to do better.
But he didn't.
Things got worse.
Since I had our daughter he found new losers to do drugs with and he drinks everyday.
He never spent anytime with her at all.
She tells my family of a time i went to the gym with my friend and he was suppose to be watching her. His friend came to get him and he told her to go over to the neighbors house.
This is fine with most kids but our daughter is not like other kids. She loves being with me. We do everything together and I have always worked at home since her birth so I can raise her. Anyways, I can home to see him in his friends car and her on the driveway crying. All he could say was "I told you I needed to leave like now". I wanted to smack him so hard in the head.
Well we went to court yesterday. We both got duty councilor. Mine sided with him in his request of having our daughter for 7 hours every saturday.
My problem is she's never been with him for more than 2 hours and he has a really nasty temper. He lives 3 cities away from me and doesn't drive legal.
Both him and his friends drink and drive and are always high.
I feel like the duty councilor I had forced me to sign consent for him to have 7 hours with our daughter because he said the judge will agree with my ex and requesting supervised visits like it was before won't work cause he's (my ex) not violent.
Its so terrible when you have nothing and have to get free help because its not any help at all. Duty councilors most anyways just do whatever they can to get you out of court even if they lie to you.
My stomach is twisted in knots now.
My ex wants to get back at me and this is the only way he can.
Through our daughter.
What are they going to do for 7 hours?
He can't come to my house or my families cause neither of us want him in our homes.