Hey im in the UK and Im pregnant and cant find the father, what can i do?

Sara - posted on 07/18/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hey im in the UK and Im pregnant and cant find the father, all i have is a first name a few photos his mobile number and email. He isnt answering either the mobile or the emails. What can i do?

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Maureen - posted on 07/19/2012

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Perhaps, in order to establish custody/support, you can ask for a court order to have his email/IP address tracked. In the US, you would ask the state to do this for you. You can tell from his email address, even if it's from a free account, what computer it is from. His cell phone number can also be traced. Telephone numbers/records can be subpoenaed to establish the man's identity. DNA testing can be done to verify that this man is the father.

S. - posted on 07/18/2012

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My com is really playing up and I'm finding hard to see replies and it keeps freezing so just bear with me, how about posting the photos you have of him on your fb asking if Anyone knows who he is? If your brave enough get your friends to do the same someone is bound to know him?

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Amy - posted on 07/18/2012

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Where did you meet him? You said you have his picture, do you know where he hangs out? Maybe go to places you know he frequents and show his picture around and ask if anyone knows him.

Michelle - posted on 07/18/2012

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In the US we have reverse 411 (information) websites. You type in the phone number and it gives you the person's first and last name, if their number is listed, also their address. Maybe you can try the phone company if you know which carrier he used, or call the police and ask for their advice. They know how to track a person down and may be able to offer advice.

S. - posted on 07/18/2012

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A privet detective will cost a small fortune and by the sound of things your going to need all the money you get. The government Would quite happerly hunt him down for CSA but they will need more info like a last name and maybe a place of work. The courts probably wouldn't do anything although most solicitors give you a hour free advice so it might be worth looking in to what your rights are.

I don't think there's anything you can actually do, if I was in your shoes I would call the number you have and say that you are defenatly pregnant an it is his but if he needs proof you are more then will to comply once the baby is here! Then I would preper to be the best single mum to ever walk the earth. If you are choosing to keep the baby that is.

Yes you have made a mistake and yes you had a one night stand with a arse hole who isn't sticking by his responsiblity but then I was with a man 4 years before I got pregnant with my 1st child and then he Didnt stick around either. Point being we never plan these things but they happen.
Were do you live? I find with my town there's always someone that knows of someone you know.

Sara - posted on 07/18/2012

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Hey thanks Stacey, i tried Facebook and stuff with his email, no luck, i only know his first name, i have no idea where he works or what he does. I rang him and said i thought i might be pregnant and he just hung up, his number just goes straight to answer phone.

We met just really got on, had been talking for a week or so, then when we met up 1 thing led to another and here i am over a month later and nothing. Its only now that i've realised how little i know about him. I hadnt been with anyone for over a year, so i know he has to be the dad.

Is there anything i can do? I thought about maybe a private detective or something or couldnt the government or courts help find him? i feel really stupid and lost...

S. - posted on 07/18/2012

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Have you tried face book? maybe try his email in the search bar! or going bk to the place you met him? Dose he know why your looking for him? Like have you left a message on either? Or do you know where he works? Good luck

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