Hey moms! My niece cries if she doesn't get what she wants?

James - posted on 09/28/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Alright, so first of all my sister was basically a brat she didn't like to listen she cried so loud the cops were called and ran in school she was absolutely crazy back then. But, she decided to make a baby when she was younger now she has gotten better and started school, the problem is that now she expects me and my family to take care of her baby. Now, you see I'm usually fine with this because she is family :) but, I've noticed she cries when she can't get what she wants? She's three by the way. But I remember warming chicken nuggets on her demand and then It was really cold so I put them back in, after that she started crying because she wanted them I sat down to explain but it only made her cry more..? Is it just traits from my sister or is it just natural for a three year old I would appreciate any help moms :D

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James - posted on 09/28/2015

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I don't really give her things I just warmed it up because she was hungry. She's here as I speak I'm going to follow this advice thanks. :)

Dove - posted on 09/28/2015

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It's pretty normal for a 3 year old to throw a fit over not getting their way. The more you cave in to the demands... the more demanding they will get.

I will add that w/ your sister's issues it is possible that her daughter has some 'extra' issues as well (mental health conditions do have a genetic condition). My son's irrational anger outbursts as a preschooler sounded JUST like the stories my mom used to tell me about myself as a child... so I had him evaluated at 5.5 and he was diagnosed w/ anxiety and depression (two of my diagnoses that I didn't receive til my 30's cuz no one sought help for me as a child).

Just something to watch out for... irrational anger outbursts is one of the ways depression presents in young children.

Raye - posted on 09/28/2015

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James, if she's crying without being hurt, then mostly you should ignore it or try to get her focused on something else. First, you shouldn't give her things on her demand. She has to understand that the world will not turn on her schedule. If she's hungry, she should wait until meal time, or tell her snacks will be ready at a certain time. If she wants the nuggets but they're not ready yet and she starts crying, tell her she will get them when they are ready and then ignore it. The more you give in to her, the more she will be a spoiled brat. If crying to get what she wants works, then of course, she's going to keep it up. You have to stop, and that will make her cry more because she's used to it working and feels it's only a matter of time before you give in. But don't give in. Give her 5 minutes after she stops crying to get the nuggets. If she stops, but then starts again before the 5 minutes is up, then time starts over. If they're cold because she was crying too long, too bad. Cold nuggets won't kill her and she will realize that her actions have consequences.

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