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Raye - posted on 02/05/2016
My 6 y/o niece once bit my mom because my mom wasn't paying attention to her... and she said "I didn't mean to". Her saying it about that is the same as you saying it about this. You had a choice not to do it, and you did it anyway. As Dove pointed out... if you said No and he continued, or if you were drugged/unconscious, then that's rape and you should press charges. But if you were conscious and didn't try to stop him, then you made a choice to put yourself at risk... you consented to accept the consequences. And whether or not you initially intended for it to happen won't change whether you're pregnant or not.
Raye - posted on 02/04/2016
You should not be having sex. If you have sex, you need to be using protection (such as condoms) EVERY TIME. If the "Plan B" pill is available in your area (must be taken within 72 hours after intercourse), you could try that to avoid pregnancy, but Plan B is not to be used as your main method of birth control. It is hard on your body. Then, you would need to wait to see if you get your period. If you don't get your period, then you can take a home pregnancy test to see if it detects a pregnancy. A negative result doesn't necessarily mean you're not pregnant, especially if your period didn't start. At that time, you probably need to talk to your parents. They can take you to the doctor for a blood test that is more reliable than the hpt, and if you're not pregnant then the doctor can help you find out why you didn't get your period. Or with a positive home test result, you should talk to your parents.
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Kailey - posted on 02/10/2016
I know I did but I am now being adult about the decision I made and im adult enough to face the challenges ahead of my life still going to school I am gonna graduate high school and go to college but I know I possibly have a another life I have to care for i'm alright with it yeah my mom chewed me out she had a right to but she has got over it and is now dealing with the fact that I might be pregnant so my sister got pregnant at the age 18 her boyfriend at the time was 22 she graduated from high school got married and had a baby she is 21 now and doesn't regret having a child at a young age she sees it as she gets to love her daughter longer and she has a 2nd baby on the way bottom line I know what I did was wrong i get that but i did what i did nothing can change it im adult enough to accept it
Dove - posted on 02/05/2016
Well... if you consented then you are equally responsible, so the 'I didn't mean for it to happen' excuse is nonsense.
If you said no or stop and he continued w/out your consent... you were raped and that's a whole different issue. If that's the case you need to call the police and file a report/charges immediately.
Michelle - posted on 02/04/2016
The other ladies have given you great advice.
I will just add that it only happened a day ago, if you are pregnant you won't find out for a few weeks so if you don't get the morning after pill you will have to wait.
If you are this worried the next day then you aren't ready for a baby.
You also need to be assertive and tell you boyfriend to stop. He has to respect you when you say no. If he doesn't then you need to get rid of him.
Jodi - posted on 02/04/2016
There is something called a morning after pill. It happened yesterday. The longer you leave it, the more likely the pill won't work, so go and see your doctor immediately.
And while you are there, have a discussion about birth control.
Raye - posted on 02/04/2016
If you didn't know it was going to happen, then.. when it did start happening.. you should have said "no". I hope from now on you will say "no", or else you will go out and get condoms to have handy just in case.
If you're not pregnant, you should thank your lucky stars and be more responsible. You can still get sexually transmitted diseases from not using condoms, even if you use a different kind of birth control.
If you are pregnant, your life will change entirely. I won't say your life will be over... but it will be over for life as you know it. You would have to care for the child who is completely helpless and would rely on you for EVERYTHING for the next 18 years. You would have to set up a parenting plan with the baby's father. Even if you break up and can't stand the guy anymore... no matter if he finds some other girl and gets her pregnant or marries her or both... he would still be the child's father, and you would still have to try to co-parent with him FOR THE NEXT 18 YEARS (longer than you've been alive right now!). The child would have legal rights to form relationships with BOTH parents. You would have to stop thinking so much about your own wants, and think mostly about the child's needs.
Dove - posted on 02/04/2016
Honestly... if you aren't mature enough to know what to do in this situation... you aren't mature enough to be having sex.
You NEED to use a condom (being unprepared means you shouldn't be doing it). You need to be able to talk to your parents about it (since you are under 18)... and now that you've had sex w/out a condom... you will need to make an appointment w/ a doctor to test for STDs.
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