Hi does anybody has this problem my 5 years old son started kindergarten he is in special class with 12 students. almost everyday i receive calls from teacher saying he is excluding himself and he is showing behaviour problem. I feel that they want my son out of the school.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2012

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Well, I doubt that she DID know why he was hitting the others! Most of the time, when we ask a 5 YO why they did something destructive, the answer that we're given is "I don't know", so she was probably telling you what he told her.



If he's running in the cafeteria, that could be a problem.



Is the class that he's in a special needs classroom? If so, are there additional aides in the room that are to help out with the kids? Generally, (speaking as a classroom aide, and special needs volunteer) if a teacher is requesting a parent come immediately remove a child, that child is being a danger to himself and others, and the teachers haven't been able to get the child to calm down.



Have you personally observed him during class time (either in preschool or now)? Do you know for certain that she's making up stories?



My recommendation is to make an appointment with her ASAP. Find out what behaviours are concerning her, and find out if you can quietly observe the class from somewhere that your son would not see you, so that you could get an idea of his behaviour. If you do not see anything amiss, then that's great, you can have a final meeting with the teacher, and move on. However, if you do see behaviour that she's been describing, then you will be able to help the teacher come up with a workable plan to gently redirect your son when he becomes disruptive.



Without you personally observing the situation, you don't really know what goes on in that classroom when you're not there. And open observation will taint the results of what you're trying to discover, which is how your son acts when you are not around.



Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that your kid is a monster! I promise! But, I have seen kids that did fine in preK, and then struggle to feel accepted, or understand what's going on, in Kindy. They aren't bad kids, they just have some problems that need to be addressed. YOur son may be having a hard time transitioning, he may be having some additional stress at school that you are not aware of...there are several reasons that his behaviour could change when you leave.

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when he was in preschool he didn't have that kind of problem. One time she called me telling me to pickup my son bec he was not listening and he was running in the cafeteria another day she wrote a letter that my son was hitting other kids including herselp I called her right away because I was concerned I asked her if she was present when he was hitting other kids and I wanna know why he was hitting other kids and she answered me " I dont know"

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/09/2012

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Aubrey,



Have you addressed the teacher's concerns? Generally teachers won't call you unless they are concerned about a behaviour, or a behaviour is interfering with or causing danger to the rest of the class.



You need to set up a meeting with the teacher to discuss her concerns, but before you do that, you need to really look at your child to determine if her concerns have merit. Does your son, when presented with a group of people, exclude himself? Does he try to hide, or not be noticed? Does he act out when frustrated, in a manner that may be causing concern for the teacher? If so, then he has some behavioural issues that need to be addressed.



However, you won't really know where her true concern lies without speaking with her to find out exactly what is going on.

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