Hi everybody I just signed up today because I feel that having people in similar situations to talk to would be very helpful.My son was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year .He seemed fine up until he started school then the trouble started.I don't think I have ever gone a week without a principal ringing me up about him causing trouble or having meltdowns.He is my only child and me and my husband have been together for about 19 years now.We have a good relationship and try our best to support each other through all of this.Our son has been seeing a pediatrician since he was about 8 and has had coucilling also.He was put on ritulan about 2 months ago and things seemed to get a bit better but just lately he has started to act the way he was before the medication.He does things without thinking and always seems to be getting himself into trouble whether it be at home or at school.It just seems no matter what we do nothing changes...After all these years me and my hubby have become a bit immune to all the phone calls and advice from teachers as nothing is working and we are really at the end of our tethers and It's heartbreaking wondering whether life will change for our son in the future and how he is going to cope next year at high school..The principal suggested that we might want to up the dose of ritulan but I'm not real keen on him even being on it..It was a bit forced on us by the school saying if something wasn't done that he would more or less not be welcome at the school.I really don't know what to do or where to turn and feel anything I do is now a waste of time cause It's not going to help or change the way he behaves.Any suggestions?
Thanks Mary It's nice to know I'm not alone on this and that it might take a bit more detective work to get him to the point where he can cope with life.I do understand that some people need a bit of help coping with these conditions ...It's just been such a long road and another call from the principal today telling me a suspension was on the cards doesn't help...I have that trouble in the afternoons with my son as well right up to bedtime he is just wired and I don't cope well with it.I'm thinking maybe a bit of councilling for me might be helpful as It's good to be able to talk to someone who will listen ..Thankyou any help is good.
Mary - posted on 11/07/2012
If you have an appointment soon maybe you should ask about them prescribing an extended release med. That has helped a lot with my stepdaughter to keep her more focused until closer to bed time which gives her a chance to sit down and have a nice dinner with us and also work on her homework before the medication starts to wear off. They do have an extended release of Ritalin, and Vyvance and Concerta also offer extended release.
Thanks Michelle We are off to the doctors soon so I will talk to her about what's been happening and what we can do.I'm not keen on the meds but if it helps him cope then we will give it a go.He just doesn't ever seem to be relaxed and is worse when he gets home from school like he can't sit down and focus on anything at all..I don't know if that is normal for ADHD but It's very draining and something really needs to be done so he can actually relax and focus.I'm glad to hear your son is coping well with school and has good friends as this is so important and is all I wish for my son as well .Will let you know how we go.
Mary - posted on 11/07/2012
I have an 11 year old stepdaughter that has been diagnosed with ADHD since the age of 4. Her mom chose to put her on medication at that time. She's moved in with my husband and I twice, still living here now. She has been on medication for a long time and after taking her off of it I can honestly say that she needs it. If your son does truly have ADHD and is struggling that badly you may want to consider upping his dose. I am not one for medicating kids, but just like depression, sometimes you have to be medicated in order to feel and act normal. If you find your son doesn't respond well to the change in dosage you can always change it back. We recently decreased the amount of medication (she's on Concerta) that my stepdaughter takes and although she gets pretty wound up and crazy close to bed time I think it's for the best. She is still able to focus in school most of the time. Sometimes you have to try different doses and types of medication with this to find what works best with your child. Good luck to you! I know how challenging it is dealing with a child with ADHD, not an easy thing to do.
Michelle - posted on 11/07/2012
If it is not working then either the dosage is not right for him or he is on the wrong medication maybe talk to your doctor about Vyvanse it is doing wonders for my son. I know you are not keen on the meds but if it helps him succeed both in school and in life it is worth it. My son has been on meds since he was 5 and he is now 11 and thriving he is an a b student, has lots of friends and does not have issues at school.
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