Hi help someone my mother and I argue about what my 17 month old EATS!!!!

Cheryl - posted on 06/23/2011 ( 30 moms have responded )

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I feed my son whatever we are having for supper most of the time. I don't add spices but I would put a bit of bbq sauce on steak or I'll put cheese on broccoli or I'll make rice with chicken or beef broth with some green onion and egg she says he doesnt like it. Meanwhile he ate it at home for supper she thinks I dont give him foods he likes. I cannot take it anymore and I hate fighting around him about the same thing when I go there after work. What should I be feeding him? Should I be giving him completly bland food like my mothers wants me too, even though he eats the food for me?

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Alicia - posted on 06/26/2011

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alot of tots dont like food getting stuck in their teeth so they become aware of what foods get stuck. that is why some become picky or other kids just out grow the taste of some food

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Alicia - posted on 06/26/2011

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it is great that you feed him what you eat. you are exposing him to food that he will eat when he is older. when he hit 2 or 3 he will become very picky

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Is there any way you can find someone else to watch him?

I wouldn't be able to leave my child in the care of someone that has no respect for me... mother or not. There should be no need to argue. She can feed him there and you feed him at your house. Can you just NOT talk about food w/ her?

I'm sorry. That would royally tick me off!

Christina - posted on 06/26/2011

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Tell your mom, "You already had the chance to mess me up while raising me and I don't need your help messing up my son." That always makes my mom laugh and she backs off. Remind your mom that this is YOUR son and you will do what you feel is best. And keep feeding him. What you are doing is expanding his taste buds so hopefully he won't be a picky child.

Cheryl - posted on 06/26/2011

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awwww thank you we are currently still arguing its like her way or no way that really sucks

Gabrielle - posted on 06/26/2011

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Hon how I cook and my mom cooks is different. And if they like it how you are fixing it I wouldn't worry at least not at that age. But a bit of advice hon that is something to think on is to take advice from anyone with a grain of salt. I listen to them and thank them for the advice. Not everything works for others.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/23/2011

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Sometimes grandmothers need a reminder that the mother knows their own child. Maybe ask her how she felt when she was under constant scrutiny when she was a new mother. And if she claims she wasn't, let her know that it sucks.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/23/2011

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I think you are doing a fantastic job. Tell your mom to feed him how she wants when he is there, and when you are with him you will feed him how you see fit. You are his mother, and she needs to shut up.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/23/2011

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So Sorry for the confusion. You know your child and what is best for him. If you can don't let her bully you. I know it can be hard especially if you need her to babysit or anything. It sucks. I am behind you 100%.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/23/2011

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NOoooooo not you. Her but I thought it might be too harsh so I deleted it. No I feel for you completely.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/23/2011

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Its hard especially if you need her for anything. That makes it hard. You have to bite your tongue. I hate it.

Cheryl - posted on 06/23/2011

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who me why because my mother is acting like shes only knows whats good for my son

Cheryl - posted on 06/23/2011

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You cannot tell my mom anything she right I'm not she knows everything she knows whats best for him. I almost cannot wait till I have one more then I'll be an at home mom forabit and won't need her to watch them while I go to work. She is so difficult I don`t wish a mom like that on anyone

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Isn't that a mother's job? LOL I imagine someday we'll be driving our kids crazy too :) Glad you were able to talk with her about it.

Cheryl - posted on 06/23/2011

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He eats brocoli without chesse too I was just changing it up and she didnt like that or anything else I ever give him

Cheryl - posted on 06/23/2011

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Thanks everyone. So I have mentioned some things some of you have written and she is plain stubborn and asks if she can make him lunch instead of me bringing it. So I said sure but I don't wanna hear how much she spent on his food and how what she makes him is better then what I made everyday when I pick him up. My mother drives me crazy:(

Shannintipton - posted on 06/23/2011

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Ahhh mothers and MIL got ot love them. My MIL once a week makes extra special stuff just for the kids. I let her do it. But I don't do it. If she wants to go to all that trouble, knock yourself out. But thanks to her they do eat salads. But the sweets. OMG always with the sweets until they are going to puke. Although it does get us to leave early. They start acting out after that. Too much for her to handle. So I just let them run wild. And then we get to leave. They crash and burn on the way home and are ready for bed.

Don't back down. It is hard putting them in there place. I understand that so maybe just grin and do what you want. That's what I do. And now she realizes I just tell her what she wants to hear but do what I want. It is now an unspoken joke between the two of us. If she suggests something, I let out a really big laugh and say you are soooo funny. Good luck.

User - posted on 06/23/2011

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Your son is YOUR son... She is just the grandmother. In the big picture, you are the one responsible for his nutrition and his health. Your mother raised you and now she needs to butt out. Do not be afraid to tell her so. It will be something that will be hard to do, but in the long run, you will be glad that you did. You should tell your mother that you appreciate the fact that she wants to be a part of your son's life and wants to help, but you are his mother and you make the final decision about anything and everything concerning him. I had to take this stand with my mother-in-law when my son was a baby. He is now getting ready to turn 13. She told me, not so long ago, that she actually respected me for taking control and standing up to her. She then felt that I was ready to take all the responsiblity of motherhood on myself. Try not to sound mean, but be firm. I hope that this helps....

Tamara - posted on 06/23/2011

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Instead of arguing just smile and say thank you for your input, for now this is what I am feeding my son, and don't engage in the fight anymore.

He can eat what ever you are eating, Right now he is developing his taste buds let them grow :)

Krista - posted on 06/23/2011

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I've never understood this insistence that kids learn to like plain vegetables. As grownups, do we eat our vegetables plain? No. We usually put on a little butter or margarine, and some salt and pepper. It's not to disguise the flavour, it's to ENHANCE it. Personally, I think it is valuable for kids to learn to enjoy seasonings and spices -- I think it helps them develop a more sophisticated palate. There's nothing worse than an adult who refuses to eat anything with any sort of "funny" seasonings or sauces.

If he eats the food for you and enjoys it, and you're giving him a good, broad, nutritious diet, then that's all that matters.

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I also wanted to add that, for me personally, I do think with things like veggies, it's best to try and get our kids to enjoy them without having to slather cheese on them (like with broccoli). But I say that knowing that I got lucky. My son has never met a vegetable he didn't like, so I've never had to really deal with him refusing veggies. But if he wouldn't eat his broccoli unless I put a little cheese on it? You bet your butt I'd bring on the cheese lol

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I agree with the other girls. He should be eating what you eat and if he spends time with your mom then he needs to be eating whatever she is eating. At that age, unless your child has allergies, dietary restrictions, etc, there's no reason whatsoever to not give them regular, adult food (cut small, of course). I mean, I wouldn't give a child really spicy chili or flaming hot tacos or anything, but to me, that's just sorta common sense. What I always did if my husband and I wanted something extra spicy, I'd take a small amount of it out for our son and set it aside before I'd added the hot spices and then just make a mild batch for him. He ate chili with us, just not the spicy stuff we had. As for everything else every other night of the week, from the time he started eating regular food (as in not baby food), he's always eaten what we eat. Maybe you need to sit and have a talk with your mom and gently explain to her what works for your son. If she's doing things one way at her house, and you're doing things another way at your house, especially when it comes to his food, I think you both should relatively be on the same page. I don't necessarily think that you both need to be feeding him the same exact things, but you're the mom. And if you know your son can handle seasonings, and you're ok with him having them, then your mother should comply with your wishes. Not to sound rude or blunt, because I'm sure your mom has the best of intentions but....he's your son, not hers. Best of luck to you :)

Jessica - posted on 06/23/2011

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if the child eats what you are feeding them dont change anything... you would hate to change something and then have the child not eat... if he likes it and eats it then good!

Ashley - posted on 06/23/2011

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kids always seem to eat differently for grandparents then they do their own parents ... if your child will eat what you give them then DO NOT change anything

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