HI How do i get my 4 year old daughter to let her dummy go

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/08/2013

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I know you are already past this point, but my son was 3 1/2 when he finally gave his up. No, I did not let him cry it out. I found something he liked more. Gum. I left it up to him, you can have gum or your binkie. He chose the gum.

Holly - posted on 04/03/2013

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tell her to go to her room and cry it out... she is 4 years old, not a baby, certainly old enough for her to cry in her room until she is done

Holly - posted on 04/02/2013

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throw it away... I would, it ruins their teeth, i quit giving my kids one when they were 3-4 months old.

some people suggest taking it to a daycare with her and donating it to the baby room.

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VANESSA - posted on 04/08/2013

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my daughter stil have her blanki though i wont take that away coz that is what is comforting her and she is happy with just the planki

Holly - posted on 04/08/2013

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you have to realize at some point it is manipulation and not necessity. studies also show that pacifiers destroy the development of the mouth.
http://tabemono.info/english/news/images...
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-REBpovZu5BU/UF...
http://nourishingourchildren.files.wordp...
http://ars.els-cdn.com/content/image/1-s...
http://www.dr-foucart-jm.chirurgiens-den...

This is especially important when the permanent teeth are beginning to develop inside the gums while the baby teeth are still here

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/08/2013

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Well Holly, studies prove differently. When you take away something that soothes them, and leave them to cry over it, it can cause emotional damage. Yeah, kids are gonna cry when they don't get thie way. If I say no to my daughter at the store cause she wants something, yeah she will cry. If she is crying at night because she doesn't have her favorite stuffy to sleep with, you bet your ass I am gonna find it for her. Why? Because it is comforting to her, and there is no reason NOT to give it to her. You are much more aggressive in your parenting style than I am...we have already learned that. You don't always need tears to prove a point to a child. There are indeed other ways.

Holly - posted on 04/08/2013

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letting children cry may be painful for the mother, but it does not hurt the child... I always wonder, the parents that don't let their children cry it out, what are they going to do when their child is 16 and crying because they didn't get their way? do they just give in? at SOME point you have to let your child learn disappointment... at SOME point crying can't get them EVERYTHING they want... are they going to be old enough to cry and cry and not give up? children have short attention spans and can forget that they were demanding a pacifier the night before, but a teenager can hold a grudge for months for not getting to go to a BYOB party and they can cry every night and never forget it.

VANESSA - posted on 04/08/2013

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hi
it was had to hear her cry but atleased its over and she is off the dummy and she is happy now

Holly - posted on 04/08/2013

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Good job Vanessa! sticking with your word and struggling through a night or two and you see the wonderful outcome.

VANESSA - posted on 04/08/2013

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I finally got her off the dummy she lost it some where and i told her that im not going to buy another one she cried one night now its over lol
thanks

VANESSA - posted on 04/03/2013

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do i just leave her to cry
i know she will stop but i dont like her crying like that

Holly - posted on 04/03/2013

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she knows that crying gets her what she wants... she is 4 years old and has mommy wrapped around her finger.

Jodi - posted on 04/03/2013

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So, Vanessa, is that why you still let her have the dummy? Because she cries for it and you give in?

VANESSA - posted on 04/02/2013

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MY 4 YEAR OLD CRIES FOR EVERYTHING AND IF SHE CRIES SHE WONT STOP
I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING IS IT NORMAL BEHAVIOR

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