hi i have 2 1/2 year old twin boys no matter what i do i can't get them to bed early any suggestions
Emma - posted on 10/24/2011
This is a similar reply that I have just given on another thread which I have adapted slightly for your post: - As a fellow twin mummy of 2 years, we have always had a very strict bedtime routine since they were born (a must with twins) and it has worked a treat. In fact they have STTN since they were 6 weeks old!!! Our routine consists of dinner at around 4pm-5pm. An hours playtime which usually exhausts them. Bath at 6pm followed by a warm drink, brush teeth then into bed when we tell them a story and put on some soothing music. They are usually asleep within 10 minutes and sleep for 12-13 hours lol. Just establish a routine that fits your family life and then stick to it but you really need both parents to be onboard because it's pointless working hard at setting up a routine and then distrupting it within a few days. Of course there are times when we can't do this (for example visiting family, friends or when on holidays) but as soon as you get home, just re-introduce the routine and they will usually slip back into it within a couple of days. Our kids are so used to their routine that if we are running slightly late or something crops up to distrupt it then they get really grumpy and my son even taps my leg and points to the stairs to let me know that he's ready for be lol - good luck xx
Vicki - posted on 04/12/2010
An energetic afternoon, early bath before dinner, a bedtime story worked for both my children, they were always in bed by 7.30p.m, unless they were off colour. Our daughter often asked to go to bed when tired. Friends of ours, their children were the same also.
Mind you with a shift working husband they were my responsibility every fortnight till our son went to school. They used to help water the garden, & loved it as couldn't waste water, bring in firewood for the combustion fire & generally play with their friends. Our daughter is Denia Priestley. Good luck, twins are more of a handful, I helped look after my aunt & Uncles at fourteen & they shared the same cot, topped & tailed, as well they had a two year old who was a bundle of fun. It worked for us.
Shawn - posted on 04/07/2010
With my 4 yr old and 3 yr old, I had the choice of letting the kids have an afternoon nap and then they would not go to bed until 9 pm or later or skip the nap and they would go to bed at 7:30 pm with no problems (of course I have very crabby kids around 6pm). Start a routine with them. When my daughter takes a nap and then does not go to sleep when I put her in bed at 8 pm, I tell her it is mommy & daddy time and she needs to stay in bed. Sometime this works and sometimes not.
Jane - posted on 04/07/2010
Bed time needs to be a ritual...no matter what you do. All the suggestions so far are great. Just be consistent every single night. They'll eventually get it. Your problem is that you've got two the same age which makes it twice as hard and they probably feed off of eachother which makes hard work for mommy! They're old enough to understand that you are going to create a ritual/traditional nite nite time. It could be this....45 minutes before you want them to go to bed, it's bath time. After bath, some soothing lotion with vanilla and lavender to help calm them, then 15 minutes of cuddle time in mommy's bed with a kid show (like stated in another post) and then to top it all off, they climb into their beds/cribs and get a nice story read to them and then it's lights out. Do this EVERY night and I bet they'll be excited to get the mommy cuddle time and story.
Amy - posted on 04/07/2010
A quiet, cozy, predictible routine works well. Baths help calm and soothe, especially if you sons can tolerate lavendar bath or lotions. If you don't have time every night for a bath (who does?) just use lotion to spend some a few moments connecting and winding down. Snuggle and read a couple of stories. Voices should be kept quiet. The television should be kept off. I know some people's children fall asleep to movies and such, but the television is actually shown to stimulate brain activity and children will have a harder time settling down and turning off. Especially if you want a reasonable bedtime and not just fall out whenever. After reading turn lights out and tuck kids in. Sing softly and say good night. Walk out. They may cry and repeatedly get up, but calmy and quiety take them back to bed. I know this will be hard and may monopolize the most of your evening, but they will gradually get better and if you are consistent, they will begin to realize what happens at bed time. Good luck!
Denia - posted on 04/07/2010
Send them to bed 15 mins apart. Alternate them as they are the same age. Getting 2 down is harder than one. They play up together. If they are overtired they will be harder to get down. Try as much as possible to stick to the exact same wind down routine on a daily basis. It takes up to 2 weeks to break them out of a bad habit into a good one. Stick to your plan. Make sure your partner does too. Our routine is this:- Bath, Get into PJs, Go pick a book each, read the stories, do prayers, youngest in bed, oldest goes as soon as youngest is asleep.
Nichole - posted on 04/07/2010
Well i know that you have two kids ....so it might help this is what me and my husband do with our son who will be 2 in aug....Try putting them in your bed and cuddling with them watch a kids show with them or watch one of your shows and just simply tell them its nite nite time and that your going mite and lay down and close you eyes but kinda keep them open to where you can see them....that works for my son and he hits tha haystack fast asleep ...or read them a nite nite book.... hopes this helps!!!!
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