Hi, I'm new to this site, and it seems interesting so far. Me and my (just turned) 16 year old daughter do not get along. We have had our moments where we've enjoyed being mother and daughter. Now it seems like each year she gets older, the worse she gets. She wants to get loud and argue with me. Things always have to go her way and if they don't, she takes her attitude out on everyone who crosses her path. She wants to have the last word in every conversation. She speaks to me and my mother with such disrespect. She has accused my fiancé with all types of accusations. I have sent her to live with her father permanently because of s not getting along. I've have done all I can to make her happy and it's not good enough. Her dad thinks I'm immature for not dealing with her, yet he pays little attention to her. She opens up to him, but I'm not aloud to meet her friends and bf. I'm at my wits end with her. I feel like I've given up on my own flesh and it's tearing me up because I feel like I've failed as a mother and parent.
Tiesha - posted on 01/10/2012
Hi Emily, thank you for replying. I'm glad you can relate and understand my pain and your Mom's pain. I'm happy that the two of you are in a better place. I hope one day my daughter will wake up and see how much I love her and realize to get respect, you gotta earn it and give it as well. It's gonna be probably be a while before we can have that bond again but I'm never going to up or turn my back on her. Thanks again Emily.
Emily - posted on 01/08/2012
Hi Tiesha I just want you to know I'm 21 now and I can relate to your daughter in everyway. I was so mean to my mom and now I can't ever apologize enough to her! I gave her attitude for no reason I yelled and argued with her every night until after I graduated and moved out. When I was a teenager I was close to my dad too. Kept my mom out but would open up to my dad. But now the relationship with my mom is better then ever. I am so grateful to have a mom like her. She has been there through everything and I can't believe I ever treated her how I did. My mom was in the same situation as you. I guess all I can say is let time pass. It took a little breathing room between me and my mom to make us mend again. What you are going through will not last forever. You have not failed as a parent and you are not immature sometimes its better to just let it be. I know she can say some hurtful things Im sure but someday she will realize she was wrong and you too will be the mother and daughter you want you two to be. I just hope it helps to know your not alone.
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